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Wow strixish, that's a great perspective. :) I never thought of it like that before, but I think that's definitely a huge contributing factor to NRE

This gives a little of what is going on... I'm not certain, but I think NRE triggers similar things in your brain like addictive chemicals do (smoking, caffeine, other drugs). You're just dying for a hit, and want to bask in the warm loveliness that is NRE.

Great post sourgirl. I like way you have set out a calm and calculated way to leave. Given that he's not beating you, you can probably afford to take the time to plan things well, rather than ditching and running without a plan. best wishes!

Like RedPepper says, it makes sense not to burden just one person with this decision. It would be better to agree upon some kind of schedule so that everyone knows what's going on.

I've seen a documentary about that. I am very thankful that I was not on the pill when I met Asha. And he did not use any deodorant or cologne, so I had a pretty good idea of what he smelled like. Yum to my nose. ;)

Until about 3 weeks ago my partner and I were your "typical" hetero couple. Then I "came out" to my Beloved, "Asha" (male) about wanting to love more than one person at the same time. He was so beautifully accepting of it, such freedom I found in admitting that to myself and to him. All of a...

I can understand why your excited, especially it all being new and the certain freedom that comes from poly. But I would not ignore the "cynics" in the room because there is a lot of experience in this forum and they speak from a place of wisdom. I'm new here and I can definitely see that...

IG, if you want a "kindred-spirit" romantic relationship, then you need to pursue it with someone who wants the same thing, because anything less is not going to satisfy you in the way you want it to, and you will always wonder what a relationship like that would be like. I was once in a...

Both NRE and ERE are beautiful things. They need to be appreciated for their different qualities. NRE is like a waterfall, a rush of emotions, a weightless fall, a spectacle of wonder. It's loud and fills the senses to the point where you forget there is anything else. ERE is the river after...

Lol, thanks for the link, cute site! Love your name too ;)

Calling you and your daughter a burden is an awful thing to say. That's what's ringing my alarm bells.

Happy to share meditation with you - it's slightly modified version of one given "Integral Life Practice" (written by ken wilber, terry patten and two others) Notice the sounds around you, and notice your bodily sensations. Notice you are not identical to the sounds around you, and your bodily...

@ Sage - maintaining peace takes practice. Read a book, sure, but the key is putting that into practice, everyday. Slowly it becomes easier and more natural. I've been working bringing awareness into my life since 2008 and it's only this year that I finding it a natural thing to do. So practice...

It sounds like both of you are putting too much pressure on finding the ideal situation. Sure it might happen, but you can't expect it. I would either forget the whole idea for now and focus on your own relationship, or you both go out and find people to date. Having him sit at home while you go...

I just wanted to say congratulations for breaking free of religious conditioning and experiencing the freedom of new communities! I have done that journey too and it's a great one. One thing I would recommend is not to throw everything you learned from your religion out the window. There will...

Forces of Nature (Ben Affleck and Sandra Bullock). Definitely The Notebook. It was crap that she had to choose between two people she both obviously loved. The Kids are Alright sounds like a disappointing movie. I was going to rent it because got rave reviews. But it sounds narrow minded and...

The English lanauage certainly sucks with descriptive words. We also only have one word for love, when there are many different kinds of love. The greek language has 100+ words for love. Go figure. In response to your question, I try and phrase relationship "work" around the words "growth" and...

The Five Love Languages principles are brilliant and definitely have helped some (mono) relationships I know. It could be something as simple as communicating in different love languages, which is relatively easy to fix. But yeah, if she's going stircrazy because of a lack of work/life ambition...

Duh, yes, of course "Australasia". I couldn't remember the word! Which sounds rather dim of me, but it's been a big week.

I'm new to this forum too, new to the poly world as the well, but I just wanted to express my support for what must be a difficult time for you sometimes. Also, don't rush into anything with anyone else until you are 100% it's something you want to do. Don't feel pressured that just because he...