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Looks like raising that kid is turning out a success story. Kudos to both you and the little one. :)

And this - especially the last sentence - sums it up perfectly from my p.o.v.. :D

I wish! That would be awesome, as emotion-based decisions just tend to complicate things. So I do try to boil down to the logical core as much as possible. ;) Then that point was just very badly worded. As it's written, it's factually wrong - you do not automatically suck at one if you suck at...

I think I get your point, it's just that the way you word it makes no sense to me. A: "There's one single relationship skillset" => healthy 'ships are all basically the same, regardless of mono or poly B: "Some people can be wired for mono or poly, and not wired for the other" => mono & poly...

I could not disagree more. Consistently failing miserably at one while totally owning the other is absolutely possible, and simply shows that one of these things is an unworkable concept that one should not give room in one's life. For folks like me, monogamy simply is bullshit, and I won't...

The second one is weird and makes my head hurt. :p And the X whose arrow description sounds the closest to me ("You can have other partners, but I really prefer not to hear the details") gets rates as "Open, Polyamourous, Mono/Poly, DADT, Polyfi"?! Open and Poly are spot on; I can get the...

From how I've heard the word used, the difference between pan- and polysexual is that pan is open to dating folks of all sexes and genders, while poly is open to many, definitely more than two, but not all. E.g., if you're not open to, say, dating transmen (for whatever reasons), but open to...

I freely admit that I simply don't get monogamy, at all... so Barb & Rich, pre-Maddy, are alien for me to start with. That said, I'd absolutely say tell Barb about it, in both cases. Not informing her about what happened deprives her of the chance to give informed consent to staying in the...

INFJ... Introversion is the only factor that was really, really high though (89%), all the other preferences were merely in the 12-20% range. I'm still baffled at ending up as F instead of T, at all. *shrug*

I actually vastly prefer long distance, at least as long as the timezone difference isn't too crazy. R. and I are hitting the six year mark for our 'ship in July - she's in England, I'm in Germany, and we never once met in meatspace; it's not terribly likely that we'll do so anytime in future...

One, and no idea (but higher than one).

Wait for the confusion when you tell someone that you're asexual and poly, so it's not about the sex at all for you...

Who set that rule? :confused: With me, it's more like "open from day one, or the relationship simply does not happen".

Makes sense. *nod* Ironically enough, that suddenly puts me in the "why wait at all?" camp, then... :D

Depending on what rates as "sex"... forever seems about right to me. Not that there's any actual waiting involved, more like a recognition that some things (in my case, the overwhelming amount of things people might call "sex") simply aren't ever going to happen, period. Approaching the six year...

Not my cuppa, never even tried it. I'm in favor of full legalization, though. :)

This. IMO, monogamy is not about "being with one partner", it's about "being with one partner in a closed, exclusive 'ship". No matter how many partners I end up currently being with - for me, that's been zero most of my life, and one for the last nearly six years (I'm simply not...

My answer is nope, I couldn't... and that's enough for me to firmly reject monogamy then and there. So on the grounds of wanting to live socially healthy, the choice becomes simply "a lifetime alone vs. polyamory". And seeing that I do trust myself to have a halfways decent chance at being...

Never felt any wish to have kids. Which is good, as I don't like the usual production method, either. :D

Eh, I won't hazard a guess at the overall probability, but that does describe me, personally, well enough. *shrug*