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This. You said what I meant, and used less words for it. Kudos. :D Ack. I just noticed this little brain-fart that is by now outside of editable time. Of course, fluid-bond and go bareback are the same, so one of these should be "use a condom" instead. *facepalm* Seems you folks understood...

I almost did, too... in the end, I chose not to, because - verbally nitpicky as I am - it's less that I believe in a divinity who can't intervene, more in one who could, but won't intervene. My personal brand of panentheism is pretty darn close to a form of deism, but I do see enough subtle...

If you don't mind my input as someone who never personally ends up in situations like these (I neither fluid-bond nor go bareback, I just don't have sex. ;)) - I realize I'm an outsider, thus, but maybe my outsider perspective helps. I don't think it's okay to expect a partner to do anything...

Like and like, innit? I've repeatedly been called boring and irritating over a lot of my pet peeve rants too. *cough*marriage*cough* And seeing you pull it off with more of a calm intellectual neutrality is pretty refreshing, IMO. I always get emotional and/or sarcastic after a while; in those...

Mag, please take this in the most platonic way possible, but I think I love you. :D

No no no, I was just making a self-deprecating quip. 'sall cool. :) Heh. Can't say that feeling is strange to me, either. Dude, if that's what you come up when merely fly-buzzing, I'm eager to hear when you make an actual full-blown post. :D Point noted, and much agreed!

Thank you! More than glad to oblige! :D Well, it's not like codes of ethics are immune to being chosen, to a non-trivial extent, by the criterion of "this will improve my life quality"... *shifty eyes* ;) Trite trope, but, in the land of the blind, the one-eyed is king... and the blind will be...

Indeed. I had to come to terms with this thought - who wouldn't have to struggle with it, even if they weren't (like me) both German, and someone with a neurotic guilt complex? - but in the end, yeah, it strikes me as inevitable that the ultimate "guilt" for anything, if one wants to place it...

That may be one of the best sentences I've heard in a long time. Kudos to you, that's a level of sincerity and self-criticism you rarely see. :) Ouch. Yep, there's a reason why I always, and I do mean always, ask myself that. A neurotic guilt/inferiority complex. Not overly surprising for...

A deity who created a world and beings within it (let's just assume this as the premise for the argument), and then opposes the happenings in that world and the choices of actions by its creatures has done a shitty job at design work and/or is intentionally cruel and avoids His/Her/Its/Their...

You already know I agree with a lot of the stuff you post, Marcus. However, I have a big problem with the bolded part. Being asexual, and in a partnership with a gal who is sexual, I cannot overstress how important compromise agreements can be in relationships. It would be chucking out the baby...

Yes, it totally does. :) For a person capable of that ultimate amount of trust in another human, this would indeed be a viable option. However, I'm really not sure if I, personally, have that capacity for utterly unconditional trust. There's always the thoughts in the back of my head that...

*nods* Makes perfect sense to me, I can certainly agree to that. I guess it's because I personally see the area outside of that subset as, well, pointless. If it's not as a way to express love, why even bother with sex? I suppose if I had any desire for sex itself, I'd think very differently...

As a Sims gamer, I just have to mention the utter sillyness that is "WooHoo". Translated as the hardly any less ridiculous term "Techtelmechtel" into the German version. :D Does it make me a hopeless sop that I really, really like the term "making love"? I know that most folks on the asexual...

I've been with R. for six and a half years now, but other folks - both full-fledged partners and more casual "bedmates" - have come and gone for her in that time. (She's been the only partner I've been with in these years... simply because it's exceedingly rare that anyone is compatible with me...

I've thought for all too many years that monogamy/monoamory were just a societal construct, and mused about "freeing your natural inner poly" as a general rule everyone has to fulfill to live a truly authentic life. In recent years, I've finally come to my senses and started to think of that...

Wonderfully put. :) Just adding - in case it needs to be said? - that this is fully compatible with my insistence on the right of all parties to break up at any time, for any reason. Trust does not require commitment - I can trust myself and anyone else involved to do what we want for as long as...

Yep. Glad that wasn't just me... I guess it just lists them top-down from most to least common? It's just 4% now. I guess the aces just got there earlier than average. :D Completely agreed (as you knew I would ;)).

I guess one could call me committed to the principle of treating a partner with love, honesty, and respect, for as long as the relationship is agreed on to continue. I'd still say I'm not committed to the person themselves, nor to the continuation of the relationship.

For me, remaining free and allowing the other person(s) to remain free is absolutely neccessary to remain in a healthy, loving mindset... I need the certainty that it will be perfectly okay for everyone involved to get up and leave at any time, for any reason. So yeah, I'm very much uncommitted...