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@kdt... Well put, one of those moments when I wish there was a "like" button. :) The one problem I still see there is the question how someone can respect a partner's autonomy and freedom while making rules that limit their choice in other partners and behavioral expression. That's what just...

Elitist attitude?? Not at all. Whatever gives you that impression? If it's "elitist" to consider oneself lucky not to be in a situation that creates unneccessary harm to oneself and others, I'd say anyone who isn't "elitist" in that way has massive self-worth issues and should seek professional...

There actually is a small range of sexual activities I'm fully okay with. The only part of that range I myself am physically capable of (for anatomical reasons) is giving - definitely not receiving - a one-sided handjob to a woman. Yup. :) It's why I consider myself lucky being ace, and think...

Well, I haven't yet - to my knowledge, at least - met anyone who was. From what I can tell, S&M seems a lot more acceptable in the general populace than penile sex is to me, personally. *shrug* As for the rest of the post... I can just say this sounds like you're remarkably chill and...

Big fan of the singular they here. In English, it's the pronoun I prefer to be referred by, myself.

Okay, so let's stick with necrophilia (because your point about consent certainly is valid). Would it still give you pause if the partner was consistently using condoms, disinfectants etc. when going for a romp in the morgue's sheets, and thus avoiding health-related problems? Would that be a...

I'm probably overthinking this mathyness... but why are the guys put to the nth power instead of just being multiplied times n? Is this a pun on "potency"?

What makes you think that I don't consider my own body gross for this exact reason? That organ between my legs has been a pretty serious source of body dysphoria for me for decades. I do feel stuck in an icky meat prison, and yep, that organ is the most important (though not the only) reason for...

It's only misogynistic if one actually does that, though, instead of what I'd see as the much more reasonable and less cognitively dissonant choice: staying celibate for life. I, too, find penises and sexual acts involving them revolting and am deeply disturbed by the thought of one coming into...

I'd hazard a guess that there's not a universal view among anarchists about much anything. ;) From this specfic RA here... copy and pasting from what I said in another thread: Also, I agree with MusicalRose. Cheating == dishonest breach of a relationship agreement... whatever the specific...

Another "first read about it at 15 or 16" here. :) I didn't end up actually being in a relationship until I was 32, because there just aren't all that many folks on this planet whom I'd be partner-compatible with... but the two relationships I've been in, of course both were/are nonmonogamous...

I'm simply not having any, lol. :D Keeping my bed to myself, too. R. is handling it with other partners she's with (be they casual or otherwise) the way she sees fit - it's not really any of my business.

Nah. Simply being upfront right from the start that mono/closed/exclusive will not ever be an option, period, is my preferred way to go. Why waste time on stuff that's not going anywhere? I don't want to waste mine on an incompatible person, or have theirs get wasted on me.

Being tolerant and accepting of monogamists doesn't equal having respect for monogamy. I, too, don't have any respect for that concept, because it goes against basic values I live by. That doesn't mean I run around insulting/disparaging etc. mono folks, it just means I'll be very much open about...

Because monogamy, to me, just reeks of ownership and control... and I strive for freedom, autonomy, and respect in my social contacts. Note, though, that while it's unacceptable to me personally and to the values I live by, that doesn't make it objectively "worse". Monos sure are free to live...

Thanks for the clearup, Marcus! :) It's just the wording then that ticked me off - it does sound reasonable when explained that way... but I agree with you and Color, it does not seem like a central/main component of RA philosophy, in general.

Can you elaborate on that one a bit, please? Kinda rubs me the wrong way on first glance...

I'd definitely prefer the "intimate" definition, by a big margin... and not only am I asexual, I'm one of those RA weirdos who don't think there's much any difference between "very close friend" and "partner", aside from what label feels most comfy for everyone involved to go by. To me...

That's exactly how I'd define the difference between poly and swinging, too. Agreed. To the point that at least some poly aces (myself included) would actually scratch someone off the potential partners list the moment we learn they aren't poly, no matter how well we might fit otherwise. I...

Not the first time I hear that view. I find it baffling and really can't relate to it, at all. However, if it works that way for you... mh, good for you, I guess? :)