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Scheduling conflicts So I will interrupt my talk about where it began to talk about where we are right now with a few things. R is going to China in a few weeks, for 2 weeks. He will then be back for the last working week before Christmas. He then has to have some surgery, and then it's...

Where do I begin? I discovered at a very young age that I was attracted strongly to girls. I never gravitated toward the male gender at all, and I was told that I was some what of a "man-hater" throughout my adolescent years and into early adulthood. In some ways, I was attracted to men, but...

SNeacail , in a way, she is throwing a tantrum. Part of me wants to shake some sense into her, and the other part just feels sorry for her. This is not what she chose. It was chosen for her. But she chooses to say. R is a very busy guy, and he and W both travel, as well. This month has been...

Minxxa I agree with you. I don't think that W is ever going to be happy with a poly lifestyle. Other than her therapist, and ONE friend, just one, who HATES R with a passion because of it, knows about what we are doing. She has such guilt and shame associated with her decision to stay with...

I wholeheartedly agree with all of you. Ideally, I advised him not to tell her, because when I found out, I was just so hurt, and I didn't want anyone else to feel that. It wasn't my call to make, and I think I scared him into not telling her. How do I convince him now that it's the right thing...

W would consider herself the primary partner. R and I consider us to be equal. It's as though we let her think that to make her happy? I know it sounds bad. Yes, I was aware she was tolerating the relationship. She wishes he would be monogamous, but understands that he is poly. I don't like...

I wish I could tell her, I really do. But I can't. I didn't betray her trust, he did. She was so confident that he would never cheat, so very very sure that he wouldn't do it. But he did. And don't I feel like it's my responsibility to break it to her. I don't think their relationship would...

To explain it simply, and how W has put it previously "I am not in a relationship with C, I am in a relationship with R, and that's who I will discuss my relationship with." She is not open to a whole lot of communication with me because she doesn't believe she should have to. We have met and...

So confused. We've been together about 18 months, but it has only really gotten serious in the last 9 months. With lots of travelling back and forth. I then decided for a number of reasons to move to the same state as him. His other partner, W, more so tolerates the concept of what we are...

To put it simply, my poly partner cheated. He has 2 girlfriends, me and another partner, and he slept with an ex a week ago. I caught him out, he confessed, is regretful and will have no contact with her in the immediate future, as she still wishes to be with him. It probably didn't help that...