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Thank you for your responses. For personal accountability's sake I will post here that I am taking some time today to really think about what I want and need (thanks Ciel) as well as what things specifically have been bothering me and how I think they could be fixed, and I will be talking to...

I had trouble coming up with a thread title, and I will attempt to make this post as concise as possible, which will be a challenge since I'm not entirely sure what I am asking for, and yet pretty sure I alreadd know the answer. I'm fairly confident after some recent conversations with Marty...

It's improved our sex life, definitely. Hubby sees how happy I am, which makes him happier. He likes hearing about what I do with my other partner, which adds some spice to our sex life. I don't think orientation/gender/etc affects how my husband feels at all, though it has helped us out...

Sounds like you two are off to a great start! Not everyone gets jealous. Those of us who do get jealous (I own it, I do struggle with this at times) sometimes have trouble understanding that not everyone does. My metamor is the type who does not, at least not of me that is for sure.

Things keep on keepin' on. I've been increasingly frustrated at my "friendzone" feeling. The more I read on here, talk to folks, and think things over, the more I think it has to do with us just expressing feelings in different ways (love languages anyone?), and the fact that I'm looking at...

A lot of times I get the "he's just not that into you" feeling and worry that I'm just something to fill up free time if and when Marty has some. I know that's not necessarily fair of me, and I've created it in my mind. I own it, I'm working on it. But it sure doesn't hurt when I vanish off...

I have to say the best and most unexpected bonus from becoming poly is finally having met a couple we get along with who have a kiddo near the age of ours. We were able to get all the kids together a lot this weekend and it was great seeing them all so happy!

So, we had a pretty good weekend. Saturday evening, Marty and his son came over. The kids were all thrilled to get the time to play together. Once kiddos were down for the night Derrick, Marty and I all watched some netflix until we started passing out. Marty and I got some one on one time...

nycindie - I got over it, I asked him, and we are on for Saturday night. :) It's funny you mention asking him with Kitty there, as that was my original plan, but with all the folks showing up unexpectedly Weds night, I didn't have the opportunity. I am getting better at communicating and...

Last night went differently than I expected, but in a good way! Wednesday is my "usual" day to go see Marty. I found out he was expecting one or two of his friends to come by for a belated birthday celebration. Four friends ended up coming over - one whom I had met before, and three I hadn't...

Thanks for your reply, trescool. :) It's nice to know I'm not the only one with a "monogamy filter", heh.

Last night went well. We spent a couple hours watching movies along with Kitty and Thomas. Then we ran a couple errands - maybe not the world's most romantic activity but I actually enjoy it as I feel it's a little way we can share part of each other's lives. We also had some interesting...

Thanks for the book recommendation - I've seen it mentioned so much on this community I had planned to look it up! The reason most "dates" end up being staying in, honestly, I am not sure how we got to this point. At first, I can say I honestly wasn't sure what to suggest, since I'm not as...

Hooray for metamours! Especially when everyone gets along! I'm extremely lucky in that my husband and boyfriend get along okay, and my boyfriend's wife and I get along very well. Woohoo!

Our first month or so of dating was fantastic in every way. We got together twice a week - Wednesday evenings we hung out with Kitty and Thomas, Sundays we had the day to ourselves. A couple times on Saturdays we had "family days" that also included Derrick, Dora and Elmo. Good stuff...

Thanks, all. Basically this is reminding me that I already had the "right answer" - improved communication between dates - and pushing for more "solo" dates. We do generally get "some" alone time, but due to finances and logistics, most of our "dates" are at his home - which means there is...

So, my present situation... the first month especially, I boggled at how amazingly well everything was going. Derrick was thrilled at how happy I was to have found not only an outlet for my dominant side but such a compatible person. Everyone got along well from the get-go - the adults and the...

Not necessarily a poly question, but has arisen due to the nature of our poly situation. Normally at the start of a new relationship I can't keep my hands off the person, and vice versa. I'm used to the first months being nonstop physical affection - not just sex, though including that, but...

Hi, I'm GreenMom (Green). I'm going to do my best to tell you all a bit about myself while still remaining moderately vague. Even though I am 99% sure that no one else involved in my life is here, I am still paranoid. Written words, posted, that cannot be taken back, that could come back to...

Succinct summary: Married. Have a boyfriend who is also married. Have children. Work full time. Relatively new to poly. Gonna start a blog in the appropriate section and I welcome feedback as I try to learn and grow.