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I agree, it is time to come clean. Be strong, be supportive and be ready for it to be a shock to him. You may find that once it is all out in the open, he is more open to your needs than you are giving him credit for.

It is difficult to say whether or not he can trust her now, but from what you have said, he seems intelligent enough. If she is not to be trusted he will figure it out pretty quickly. Maybe voice your concerns about it with him, but let him know you have faith in his ability to determine whether...

You need to tell him... I think you have to have that discussion as uncomfortable as that may be. Funny thing about things we fear, once we face them, they don't seem near as scary. Give it to him straight, tell him how you feel, he should be open to that and at least try to understand. If he...

This is exactly the situation my wife and I are in. She has a long distance relationship with her poly boyfriend that recently became intimate. I have made some friends, and there is one woman inparticular that I know I could develop feelings for, but for now, I am still monogamous. Looking for...

Thanks to everyone for your help. I will write more later, but I just wanted to say thanks. My wife made it home yesterday morning, bad weather caused her Saturday flight to be cancelled, but she is home now and we are both very happy about that. We spent the day yesterday reconnecting, it was...

This is quite frankly one of the hardest things I have ever done. I am not sleeping well, I can't stop thinking about her. I'm afraid to text her or reach out to her, because I want to respect her space and their time together. I sit next to my phone hoping it will beep and I can get word from...

Believe me, I know what you mean, my wife has a relationship with a man who lives far from us; they of course spend a lot of time messaging on Skype and such. It used to drive me crazy with jealousy. Everytime I'd leave the house, I'd be worried about them messaging each other. It took me a long...

Glad things went a little better the last couple of days, but remember you still need to be assertive when stating your needs. To me it sounds like you are being shuffled from primary to secondary position, (for lack of a better way to put it); if you're cool with that great, but if your not...

Missing her One day and one very long night down... still strong in my resolve, but I had a very difficult time sleeping last night. She is not here and it makes it very hard to sleep. I wasn't tormented by demons, I just miss her very much. I hope that she is having a good time, and that their...

I think Cubist may have a point, you might not be in a position to make a strong ultimatum, but you need to do it anyway. Be prepared that it could be the end, but don't let anyone walk all over you and take your love for granted, you deserve better and there are other women out there. Be strong...

Act Now! Get to acting on the advice that has been given, that would be my advice to you. If you continue to set a precedent that you can be walked all over in this relationship, that is exactly what you are going to continue to get. Stand up now! If not, I think it could be all downhill for...

So sorry. Hi Magdalena, So sorry to hear that. I hope that you can pick up the pieces and find some peace in your heart. Betrayal is never fun, but at least now you know, better than continuing to be in the dark. Do what is best for you and protect your heart. I wish the very best going...

Thanks GG, That is a beautiful song, Thank you for all of your help and support. I got a lot of the ideas for the continuation of my vows from the rights and responsibilities statement on your profile. When my wife had writer's block I reffered her there as well, it was helpful for her too. I...

All good! My wife leaves tomorrow and I am really feeling at peace right now. Last night we went up into the mountains and had a kind of reaffirmation ceremony. We lit a candle and read the wedding vows that we had written for each other on our wedding day. We each wrote a new section of our...

Sounds to me like you got it going on Mockingbird. Maybe try asking him for more input Tell him you'll be as submissive as he wants you to be, and have him tell you exactly what he wants you to do. Next night reverse it, kick his ass and make him your bitch, so to speak. :eek: Make him do...

The way I see it, it's my past vs. our future. My money is on our future!

Something to watch out for... I was a swinger in my first marriage, so I'm kind of familiar with the swinger mindset. People who are too anxious to move past a friendly relationship into a relationship of a sexual nature might not be practicing polyamory. They may tell themselves that they are...

So sorry to hear this. :( Hang in there, it sounds like you have a lot going for you and if your relationship wasn't strong enough to hold up to this... well I guess it just wasn't strong enough. I know that it doesn't help how you are feeling now, but at least you have your whole life ahead of...

Try not to take it so personally, perhaps she has just gotten busy and hasn't had a chance to get back to you, don't lose faith. If something more is meant to happen it will, naturally, if not there are other fish in the sea!

Fantastic, I am very happy for you. :)