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I slept in "their" bed about 3 times. She suggested it because she was out of the house working a night shift and their bed is bigger and more comfortable than the futon in the spare bedroom. (He's a tall guy, so that made the futon extra uncomfortable!) It was okay the first couple of times...

I was "just friends" with my first husband initially, and our marriage lasted for 15 years. (It probably wouldn't have lasted this long if we hadn't had children together.) I was instantaneously attracted to my second husband, romantically, and while that relationship/marriage didn't last...

I think you both have some more healing work to do before you become involved in a healthy polyamorous relationship. I've worked with many sexual-abuse survivors who feel like any boundaries or limits set are "controlling" after so many years of them feeling powerless over what happens in their...

I think that informing someone you live with about the basics of your general whereabouts in terms of leaving, returning home, on a "date", is common courtesy. Some see it as their partner trying to "control" them and don't feel they should have to "answer" to anyone. My thought>>>>GROW UP...

Thanks, Redpepper and Mono. The thoughts and advice you two have shared on this forum have been very helpful in my journey into poly. Bless you both! And a platonic hug back at you, Mono! ;)

Thanks for your supportive thoughts, Jade and vodkafan. They're appreciated!

Thanks, SG! I do believe I'm capable of loving more than one person at a time, but I don't think I feel the need to have more than one lover in my life to feel content. And I sure hope I have some adventures ahead of me! Thanks! ;^)

I've used a female "condom". I found them greatly "distracting" and lacking in a sense of intimacy.....even though we integrated them into our lovemaking. He preferred them to male condoms. I didn't. The female condom is kind of a "bag" that has a lot of looseness to it....which is why I'm...

How old are your children? Are they old enough to tell you what they'd like to call other women in a relationship with their parent(s)?? Titles involving "mom..mum...mother..." can have a lot of emotional load attached that a child may or may not necessarily feel. I...for one...wouldn't want...

It's been a rather rough week. I broke it off with my poly guy last Sunday. He told me then that he considered me a "girlfriend," not anything like a poly wife, and that it would take time for me to "earn" my way into that "status," in addition to ongoing involvement with and acceptance by...

I take anti-depressant medication daily and few people would ever realize I struggle with depression in my life. In fact, most see me as pretty happy and calm. But, I know that I have limits. My energy "reserves" are minimal. They don't see me on the days when I come home from work and crash...

As someone who has struggled with depression at various times in my life. I know there were times I just didn't have it in me to be deeply involved with someone else's wants and needs. It may be that there's only so much of him to go around due to the depression and it may not be enough to take...

I'm in a FMF V. We are comfortable holding hands, sitting close to one another touching, and giving hugs and brief kisses in one another's presence. (No deep and intimate "French" kissing.) On the other hand, our guy hugs and kisses most of his/our female friends "hi" and "good-bye," so it's not...

Thanks for the words of support, Magdlyn. I responded the same when he said "if I hurt you." I said he most certainly did hurt me, and did he really think it would be any different, knowing how deeply I feel and care about people in my life?! His response, "I was hoping..." :rolleyes:

Yikes! SG, I hope all is well with people and the Land Rover! I miss seeing snow at Christmas time, but I sure don't miss driving in it.

Thanks for the feedback everyone has given. With regards to finding another partner and having him possibly as a secondary, I wasn't certain that I wanted to be poly in terms of having other partners myself, more like a mono within a poly relationship, although I hadn't made any final decision...

I used that expression with him in response to him at the time, e.g., "when it is convenient," in addition to "little or no effort," and he was insulted, telling me it wasn't about effort or convenience. Said he was "run to the ground" and just "couldn't commit to any schedule, calendar...

Thanks SG. Yes, unfortunately, things like this do happen. As for continuing to talk about it, he told me he doesn't want any pressure from me about it and things are as they stand now.

Met my poly guy online a little over a year ago. He is living with a partner. (He's hetero, she's bi, and I'm hetero, female) It was the first I'd ever heard of poly. At first I was "No way. Not for me. Fine for others." But then, as I did a lot of reading and talking with our guy, I became...

Maybe I missed something....but exactly how much does B know about you and your relationship with her husband? And what were/are her expectations of a relationship between you and her husband and/or you and her?