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I remind myself that prioritizing time at holidays isn't just a poly issue. There have been many times when I encouraged my sons to spend the holiday with their dad (after we had divorced) and his extended family because I didn't have an extended family to get together with. I wanted them to...

Well for me it sometimes triggers old feelings related to "abandonment". It's one thing if I choose to leave. It's still within my power and control. It's another if I'm the one being left or asked to leave. This is an old emotional wounding for me, but it still crops up its ugly head every...

Moochers are moochers....poly or not!! I don't have a lot of respect for someone who won't get out and try and find work or try and pick up the slack at home with extra housekeeping chores, cleaning, cooking, etc. to help out those who have jobs outside of the home. They're adults. They need...

R.P........yes daily gratitude can really put life in perspective. Thanks for the reminder! :)

Welcome! This site seems like a perfect place for you to be! There are many who are bi-sexual and interested in poly relationships.

Thanks L.R.!

Just wanted to express my gratitude for the Universe bringing my poly partner and I together about this time of year one year ago. I was blessed today in being able to spend Thanksgiving with my poly couple, her son, and good friends of the family who accept us as we are. A year ago I would...

Well this may be an obvious response but sometimes it's skipped over. Have you asked your partner if there's anything he's aware of that you could do that might be helpful to him when he's thinking and feeling this way? Sometimes people need us to just listen and aren't looking for us to try...

I told this guy by sending him an email. That gave me a chance to think about my words carefully and him a chance to absorb what I said without feeling totally on the spot. My email ("A" is our guy partner and "B" is our gal partner.)...

I have thought about giving up my current poly relationship even before I met this current man because things aren't going so well in terms of being anything other than a secondary. I must say, however, maybe I am poly at heart because I feel I could love more than one man at a time. A...

Well I did it. I went through my first experience of trying to figure out how and when to tell a guy I had just started dating that I am in a poly relationship. The timing was hard because if we didn't really connect, I saw no need to bring it up. But, I didn't want to be perceived as lying...

Are these two friends willing to continue to be a part of your life "as is" if you find a romantic lover/poly partner? If not, you won't have to worry about a future partner accepting the friendship/relationship with these two women! If you find a poly-oriented partner, I think you'll find...

What kind of relationship do you have with Marina? I stayed at my couple's house for about a month when I moved to a new job, and to be near them, until I was able to find a place of my own. I also spent a few weekends with them before moving, and a long week camping with them. I must say it...

Good suggestion! We never really did discuss why he didn't take it all the time. Thanks!

Thanks for your feedback Wayne. He does have medication he can take for the ADHD, but he doesn't take it on a regular basis.....just when he's feeling extra stressed. He also doesn't eat or sleep well and is in a fairly high pressure job. (Of course I could say the same for myself when it...

WOW...thanks so much for all the suggestions and resources. Also for the reminder that there are skills/techniques one can use to better manage this condition. I'm not sure our guy would see the behaviors that concern me as possibly related to ADD, but it might be worth discussing with him as...

I'm typically on the end of being "left behind," because I don't live with my poly couple. I can remember one time when we were coming back from a shared camping trip. They live together so were, of course, traveling together. I lived 7 hours north and east of them and was traveling solo. As...

Thanks for your responses and suggestions SN and BG. They make sense and you have some good ideas for me to try. I do think it would help for me to talk with our other partner. She's very organized. Our guy has told me in the past to check with her in terms of scheduling, etc. I have to...

Maybe one has nothing to do with the other. That's what I'm trying to sort through. (And I'm feeling confused just trying to get my concerns in writing! LOL) I've written before that I often feel like a "secondary" to the already existing relationship of "my" couple. I feel like I don't get...

Ours was a long-distance relationship. They lived together. I was the new one. So, after he and I became acquainted through emails and phone calls, we started adding her into some of our phone calls in casual conversations. (She didn't like emailing.) Then, when we decided to meet in person...