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Thank you, I have gotten more sleep and feel a little better. It's been weird around here for me. Quiet, but not. No text messages, no calls, nobody over for dinner. Kids are still being their typical noisy selves though. I'm pretty sure they have split personalities. One for me, one...

THIS. I don't know how to explain that it is NOT about not having enough. I know that you give me all of the love that I could possibly want from YOU. I know that if I ever wanted more sex for the sake of the act, YOU would give it to me. I KNOW that you spoil me rotten and I DON'T take...

Well, we had our break! It was pretty nice I guess. We had a small set back last Tuesday where we discussed it for a minute. Then we had our first counseling session as a couple on Friday. It's a counselor that I see regularly that also does marriage counseling so she was more than happy to...

Right, it wasn't something in the marriage. I didn't say, hey, I feel like I need something else and go looking for it. It landed in our laps, and I was like "Wow, why didn't that feel wrong? Why do I feel like a part of me that was missing has been filled?" It's not that I ever knew...

Sneacail.. I do relate to your post, and I do feel a lot of pressure to not only make myself happy but be responsible for making sure that he is happy. It seems like there is absolutely nothing I can do to bring him out of his funk, but I'm not giving up. Even "going back" wont make him happy...

I've already told you this, but I've never stopped showering you with love. The sex has slowed down (but still far more frequent than it was before this all started), but it's hard to stay turned on when you are a mix of emotions and I never know how you are feeling. Love and sex are not...

Cyndie, yeah, you are right, but easier said than done. :) Thank you for all of your responses. You always have such great insight to what's going on and I appreciate that! Annabel, yes, we have taken a huge step back and gone back to basics. Drew has okay-ed snuggling and kissing. So far...

Why does it have to be complicated?

Thanks all.. things seem to be a little smoother today so far. J is coming for dinner, so I guess we'll see how hubby is when he gets home tonight. Magdlyn, I have read Sex at Dawn, and The Ethical Slut, and I just started Opening Up. Hubby read the first 55 pages of Sex at Dawn, and then...

Well, last night was a really rough night. Hubby texted me while he was at work and said that he was feeling inadequate yesterday. He said he feels some anger since he feels like sex with him wont be enough and he can't make me feel sexy or make me want to have sex at any given time. He...

This sounds so much like the situation with Beodude and me. Carma posted in my thread that her situation was similar, and man, she wasn't kidding! I haven't posted in this thread, as I don't feel I have anything additional of value to add, but I've been reading, and it's been a wealth of...

Well... good-ish stuff going on I guess? Hubby and J are going to catch a movie tomorrow, and then coming back here for a BBQ and they will have more dude bro time while I go do my Sunday night skate. Hubby had written J a letter letting know how he was feeling and that he needed J to...

I also fell into the secure range, and I'm not surprised. Definitely interesting questions though, some of my answers have changed slightly since I've identified as Poly, but still secure for the most part.

Haha, that's because I posted before I knew about my surprise! But yeah, I've been having a rough week, and when hubs got to work, J was leaving and hubby told J that I could use his company. So imagine my surprise when there was a knock at the door and there was J wielding chocolate and a...

Thank YOU for sharing Carma! I always love to hear success stories, that even with ups and downs it can work out. Hubby has been having so many internal struggles lately. He doesn't even really know how to tell me what is wrong. (See his thread...

I just wish I knew what to do when you were feeling the anxiety. I get flooded with guilt and it makes me want to stop everything and "go back" to the way it was. At the same time the thought of that doesn't feel right either, and I immediately feel a sense of loss at the idea of it. All I...

I guess I'm a control freak? I'm definitely heavy on the Type A, slightly OCD side. It's gotten worse as I've gotten older. At the same time I'm pretty laid back as far as friendships go. It's hard to offend me, and I'm very open with people. For me, the reason why I need that honesty, is...

hmm, well, so much and so little has happened in the last week. I'm not sure what happened with J. Ended up asking him about a few things i felt like he was being dishonest about.. after he stood me up, apparently because he took a sleeping aid and some pain meds and slept through, again...

He hugged me tight and said "I love you guys too".. which I know he does. He really respects our marriage. I didn't expect him to say anything, and didn't care. I just felt like I needed to say it, I've never been one that holds back whether it be friends, family or a romantic interest. I...

Stood up.. again.