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I have done in the past. He was married, she was very conservative. He lived a seperate life away from her. It ended badly, and in hindsight, I probaby wouldn't do it again.

I think perhaps the example she uses is being taken too literally. As a poly person, and a swinger, I am very aware of the difference between them, and her example truly sums it up for me. Not because my children are the center point of my poly life, though. It's merely an example. The way I...

We're swingers, as well as poly. I do not kiss people I swing with. I only kiss those I am involved with in relationships. I totally get this. :D As I said, we are swingers, and we are poly. For me, the two are quite separate. My husband and I swing because we both enjoy sex, and anonymous sex...

We have always conducted our relationship very freely. We have only one 'rule', which applies to poly, open marriage, swinging all. "Do what/who ever you want, just tell me" If either of us meets someone and has a spontaneous fling, telling the other after the fact is also acceptable.

For me, it just seemed natural. It wasn't spurred on by any media I had read/seen. Just all my life, even though I was raised very conservatively, in the back of my mind I couldn't make sense of monogamy.

My story is pretty simple right now LOL. I am 31, have been married for 8 years, and live in South Africa. We have had 'different' (we were both raised ultra-vanilla) ideas on love and sex to most in our circle right from the start. We started swinging right after getting married, and at the...

I think the secrecy issue has more to do with the individuals involved than with the poly society on the whole. We as a couple are of the opinion that if people do not accept us as we are, they are not worthy to be part of our lives. We are open, if they don't like it, they know where to find...

You don't need to have a label for it to live it. My hubby and I have lived the poly lifestyle for 8 years, but only recently stumbled upon the term "polyamory". Knowing the name hasn't changed anything about how we live our lives. For us, we are open about our lifestyle to anyone who asks. And...

I do believe in soul mates. I believe we have more than one soul mate. And I believe they can be anyone, not strictly sexual/intimate connections.

I am very liberal and non-judgmental when it comes to things of a sexual nature. Basically, if everyone is an adult and consenting, then more power to them, no matter the activity.

Noise... we have small children, having quiet sex is the norm :)

This is something that's been on my mind for a little, too. I think if the connection to the other person is good, even without a physical aspect, a relationship could work.

Currently, it's just the two of us, but I'll answer on our most recent V 1. Does anyone prefer certain things with certain partners? Yes. Everyone has their strengths in the bedroom. My husband is not a kissy-cuddly sort of guy, my OSO was very much so. He and I could spend ages just cuddling...

That is my thinking too. We got married (so I guess that's exclusive LOL) but we did so knowing that each of us was free too pursue whoever grabbed our interest.

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I love music, all types! But I am sadly un-talented when it comes to playing instruments or even singing :)

FoxFlame, that is a touching tribute! I have one butterfly tattoo on my right shoulder blade... Hopin to get a few more eventually. My body seems to reject piercings :( so all mine have closed... I had a navel and an unmentionable piercing LOL

It seems to me that many couples that come to be Poly start out as a result of infidelity or one partner's having met someone they wish to pursue a relationship with, but want to do so 'without guilt'. Is this the norm? I struggle to imagine how well a poly 'primary' relationship can stand up...

I too agree with the PP that it seems you are looking more for a sexual arrangement than a romantic one... ie. swinging. To be honest, it depends on the type of person your wife is how well she will take the discussion. And only you will know that. Personally, based on your reasons, I don't...

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