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Well, I discussed this marriage counseling idea with him last night. Regardless of the out of pocket price, he doesnt want to go but he deeply wants to work this out with me. He admitted to marital neglect and will pay better attention to my needs so that I not only stay in this marriage but...

I think if he broke the original contract, you have the right to get out, but do it quickly and safely.

Has anyone else sought after Marriage Counseling (termed Family Therapy for insurance coverage) but been unable to because their insurance company doesn't really cover it? I learned today that BOTH of our insurance companies won't support my interest in seeking family therapy (to prevent The...

Hi Lotus, Welcome! Where are you from? I am also new to this site. My position in my own marriage sides more with your husband as my own husband fiercely disagrees with the notion of opening up our now-closed, sexless marriage. In truth, I don't think he'll ever accept my wishes. Opposite...

I apologize if I am reading this wrong, but it sounds to me like he is toying with you when he changes the subject. He likes the idea but won't take it any further. Is he in a relationship of his own? I am also in that situation where if I begin to 'toy' he changes the subject to mundane...

I'm exhausted. I've asked for two things for Christmas: a newly refurbished laptop (because recycling is good for us), and marriage counseling. I wonder which one I'll get.

Cant FB anyone from here - my husband "forbids" me from having these thoughts. He has no idea about this forum. Thanks, though! :)

Yes, I read your whole post - thank you for sharing :) We'll talk again soon, I'm sure :)

What a beautiful array of religions / philosophies under one forum! Right now, I am undecided. I was raised Presbyterian but left the Church at 13, even though I still lived next door to it until 16. I explored Buddhism for many many years, but discovered that I still have a difficult time...

Why thank you, Somegeezer! May I ask how you decided on this User Name? Quite unique, if you ask me. I chose Erin because I'm Irish and have family roots still living next door to you :)

Hi Kelvin, I am still so thankful you are still responding! Nice to hear a man's perspective. Please say thanks to your wife for helping me, too. I am so bothered that I've married a man who has no sex drive unless I pursue it. Do I think he's cheating on me at this very moment? No. But I...

I already know it'll be the latter of the two because changing the game only gets us into fights. It's okay. I'm coming to terms with it. He has many good qualities, but we've grown apart and do not share the same bonds to keep it going anymore. It will be very painful, as I do love him, and I...

Redpepper, Wow! I'm very happy to read your thoughts, too. This is turning into a sleepless night before work tomorrow. Going to the other man would resemble being rescued. I bet that's why he wont respond to me. I will begin the preparation process, so it's easier later. That dinner thing...

Hi everyone! My name is Erin. I'm in my early 30s, non-practicing bi, married to a man, and living the mono lifestyle. Poly interests me for many reasons, but my SO fiercely refuses the notion of sharing. So, I'm hear to learn, to grow, and to heal from his hurtful words as if I'm a bad person...

Hmm... I'm scared of being unfaithful and then getting caught. He'd throw everything on the lawn. I used to think he had cheated as I am never able to really know the locations of his side jobs in construction. I doubt he is at the moment. He's always home, but definitely clears his internet...

This forum has helped me realize that I cannot remain with this man and ever be fully satisfied. He'll never be satisfied because he'll always be worried. His non-sex does not match my all-sex needs. (I feel like I'm the dude in the relationship!) Now I understand why men cheat on women who...

Onysablet, we are both in the same boat, as we are both in long-term relationships with partners who refuse. My husband makes me feel dirty if I bring it up, so I keep it buried deep inside. I believe The Big D is inevitable. What do you think you will do? The heartache is so awful. I'm right...

Updates Everyone’s comments have been so wonderful. This has been so confusing for me, so I enjoy reading what you say! I can tell this is a safe community to draw advice from. To be clear, I have been working on fixing this relationship for years, but my frustrations grew out of control in...

Thank you!!! I am so overwhelmed with comfort to read all of your comments. Your shared experiences makes me feel that I'm not crazy or alone. I have only been able to read these on my iPhone and planned to quote all of you with responses. My husband and I share a computer, and I believe he is...

My last posting makes me sound silly. I am an educated woman stuck in a exhausted marriage that should've ended a long time ago, but the housing market prevents us from selling the house. Sadly, we both know it. I know if things were different, I would've broke it off years ago. I'd be living in...