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In practice, if one is cheating it usually presents a situation I am not comfortable with, and I will not proceed. In theory though, I am not responsible for the actions of others. Becoming involved with someone who is cheating is usually stupid, but I would not say that it is wrong. I would...

I'm not opposed to the idea in general, and I'm not opposed to being physically close to people I just met. However, my interest would largely depend on the atmosphere and the rules. For-profit commercial things at a convention I probably wouldn't be into. If there was a small cover charge to...

Most of us are familiar with the relationship format you are discussing. The concept of a couple looking to add a bisexual girl to their relationship is referred to as "Unicorn Hunting," which is why the word "unicorn" has been mentioned. Many who have experience with this sort of relationship...

The simple answer is: If being with one person feels right, mono. If being with more than one person feels right, poly. However, nothing to do with relationships is ever simple, and if something seems simple, something is being overlooked. Although, breaking complex issues down into simpler...

This semester, there's this woman in one of my classes that caught my attention immediately. I'll call her... Leah. I was immediately attracted to her, but there was something else about her that I couldn't place. She's an extremely friendly and easy to talk to person. I'd talk to her...

I am not currently fluid-bonded to anyone, and I pretty much covered the theoreticals in my previous post. My "girlfriend" Rachael and I accidentially became fluid-bonded the first time we had sex (she's allergic to latex and polyurethane condoms suck. I wish I'd known about polyisoprene...

For me, time isn't really a factor in itself. It has more to do with what the risk is and what kind of sexual activity is occurring. Manual stimulation has pretty much no risk as far as STIs are concerned. While rubber gloves are probably a good idea at an orgy, it's probably safe enough to...

Job: A Comedy of Justice deals with it in a vague sense. More so open sexuality than relationship or marriage structures, but it's there. As far as other authors go, Robert J. Sawyer has written some books that mention polyamory as well. The Neanderthal Parallax (Hominids, Humans, and...

1) Define "polyamory" in a sentence or phrase. The state of or ability to love more than one person at a time and be completely honest about it. Usually, but not necessarily, focusing on romantic love. (You said one sentence and I did it in two. I kept it as short as possible; I'd prefer a...

Hmm... dictionary time! (All definitions in this post are from Merriam Webster CHEAT transitive verb 1: to deprive of something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud 2: to influence or lead by deceit, trick, or artifice 3: to elude or thwart by or as if by outwitting <cheat death>...

As everyone has figured out by now, the real issue is is that she isn't being completely honest. The question is, why? You've both agreed that it's okay to be involved with others. It could be a lot of things, but my best guess is that she feels that what she is doing is not okay. What...

I also vote "actually, I've become more patient being poly than I was when mono." I think it is because... well, it has come to my attention that in mono dating, it is apparently acceptable to date more than one person until exclusivity is asked for and agreed to. That has not been my...

A Clockwork Orange I've recently been having some problems in the relationship department (more on that later.) Mostly to do with Tom and Rachael (by "mostly," I mean "entirely.") Two weeks ago, I was venting on Facebook, and as a result, several people called me wanting to help me with my...

One probably has little to do with the other. People live their lives and define their sexuality as they do based on a lot of factors. Mental illness and personality disorders most likely play a part, but are far from the whole story. Just speaking for myself, there are dozens, if not...

Yes, I had considered that. Thank you, though. If it doesn't already exist, I figured a "how this stuff works" summary thread would be helpful. Yes, that is true. However, at any point in time, an individual has some idea of what works for them and what doesn't, even if they've never thought...

How does polyamory work for you? I am what I have begun describing as "fully polyamorous." There's probably a better term for it, which I will start using once I am made aware of what it is. Essentially, it means that I believe in placing as few restrictions as possible on the formation and...

My first experience with multiple simultaneous loves (described in my blog thread) I just sort of fell into naturally. In my naivete, I thought I was alone in how I felt; that one could love more than one person at a time. As stupid as it seems now, I once the only alternatives to monogamy...

^ Thanks. Sully is somewhat of a personal idol of mine. Also, I have trouble coming up with my own titles for things, as evidenced thusly: My Journey Thus Far as it Pertains to Polyamory As I stated in my introduction thread (which I am too lazy to link to), in some ways I have always been...

Yeah, I borrowed the title from Sully Erna's autobiography. Sully Erna is the vocalist of Godsmack. I'm guessing most of you either know that already or don't care. Actual content coming shortly.

I almost used my standard name here, but it's fairly closely related to my real identity, and I use it as a stage name/pseudonym for anything I do musically, or really anything where I don't have to use my legal name. I'm fairly open about who I am, but I decided to maintain some level of...