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I agree with Kyle, take it slowly. I speak from experience because we didn't take it slowly, at all, with our quad. It backfired and we took a step back for quite some time (in part because I had a baby as did the other girl of my quad) and though we remained best friends the whole time, being...

I agree this arrangement seems a bit unfair, if you like men and women you should be able to be with either. But, if it's okay with you, then you do what is right for your relationship. It seems to me that you should be able to find your own girl, though. What are the chances you will fall...

Welcome to the board. :) You being mono and him poly? Is there a reason why you can't both be poly? Sorry, just asking since your intro doesn't explain very much.

I suggested this to someone earlier, but have you ever looked at meetup.com to see if there are any poly events or groups in your area? I tried to look, but it will only look in my specified area, it seems.

Welcome to the site. Avatar and I are in a quad relationship. It is pretty fulfilling and of course it take a ton of communication and personalities really have to mesh. I hope you find what you are looking for in the forums and in your poly life! :)

I agree that it is still cheating. She is using "being poly" as an excuse for bad behavior. Being poly means honesty and trust above all, period. She isn't fulfilling either of those criteria. I think you need to start from scratch, maybe wipe the slate clean, redefine your boundaries, and...

Hi and welcome! Not sure where you live, but maybe you can find some in person community through the Meet Up site. We have many poly gatherings in my area ranging from game nights, to support groups, to family gatherings, workshops, etc. :)

Kevin is right, a box with a slash, I drew it out to see last night! Ha, yep, I am a dork. ;)

Hi there! Is the situation difficult since they are broken up? Or are they amicable?

Hi Kevin, I am a stay at home mom, so I don't have to worry about being out at work. My husband, Avatar, is out to his "work wife" but no one else. He doesn't really associate with anyone else at work. Busbuddha's wife is out to many people where she works, and has lost most of her friends...

Alrighty then.... do you really think people getting those kinds of responses is going to make anyone here be open and honest and want to discuss their issues? Isn't that what this board is supposed to be for? Maybe I am just confused. I would think that since being poly can be a very...

Maybe you are just trying to be straight forward, but I find your post incredibly rude and unsupportive. Is that the way this board works? If yes, that is disheartening. They are new to being poly and trying to navigate things. You can't expect everyone to be as evolved as you seem to think...

I agree with everything MusicalRose said. We must share the same brain. ;) The main point I was going to make is that I don't think your wife ever actually thought you would act on being poly. She thought she could have fun and still keep you all to herself, and now she is freaking out about...

Just trying to throw some "what ifs" out there, so I am just prefacing my post by letting you know I am not trying to be intentionally negative. You have never met your online love. What if you meet and the chemistry in person isn't what it is online? Can I ask if meeting someone online was...

Does that mean "A" has been here and I just don't know about it? I have a hard time believing that she posts on a forum!

We actually met them by complete happenstance, through a hobby club (non poly related) that my husband belongs to. It just turned out to be one of those chance occurrences. It is very hard to find four people that mesh well. I hope you can find what you are looking for. :)

I guess I should be more specific here... He is supportive of my quad, meaning he is friends with all of us, but is friends with me the most. We have been friends for 4 years. My quad is unbelievably supportive of this relationship taking place. They know how much we connect, they all know I...

I am in a quad with my husband and our two best (married M/F) friends. We are all very firmly poly and love and respect each other, and we consider ourselves family. We have an agreement that we can have outside partners as long as they are okayed by all members of the quad. Recently, one of...

Hi there. I am a female that is part of a quad with my husband of 17 years and another married couple. We have been on and off quadded for the past two+ years, but have remained best friends throughout. My husband and I have two children, and our other half has one child. Our youngest child...