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The first paragraph sounds very poly to me. The second paragraph does not contradict the first. There's nothing wrong with the desire to be the most important person in someone's life, and to have someone else be the most important person in your life. It's healthy to love someone enough to put...

I believe that there's more to a relationship dynamic than communication and trust. The only extent to which I agree that mono and poly relationships are the same is this: Every relationship is different. So in the sense that "every poly relationship is different" then yes, they're just like...

I something of a loner, and I identify as polyamorous by nature. I'm a total homebody, and I much prefer a quiet evening with myself over a wild party or bar hopping. I also enjoy small social get togethers, but I find that even with my closest friends, I really have to psych myself up and get...

I find labels useful for quick & dirty vague descriptions of things, but useless when trying to pinpoint anything. Too many people tend to feel that labelling a person or act is the same as labelling a product, and once you put a "Campbell's Chicken Soup" label on something, you expect a certain...

It reminds me of a while ago, on a BDSM forum, I came across the acronym "WIITWD" for "What It Is That We Do." A lot of people in that forum participated in a wide range of non-mainstream sexual activities, but didn't like the connotations associated with "BDSM." In a lot of ways, reminds me of...

So very very true!

Yes. I knew I was polyamorous since before I knew there was a word for it or that other people felt the same way. My husband and I are not currently involved with anyone out side our relationship, so it's definitely not our relationship that "makes me poly." It's a feature of my identity.

Knowing that you're from the UK actually goes a long way towards explaining why you would have such a different perception of the term than I'm used to... In any country, "fuck buddy" is slang, and it's no secret that the different continents (and even different states within the US) have very...

If it's so uncomplicated, there shouldn't be a need to review your posts to find out how you personally define the term. It seems that you're the one who doesn't want to understand the common usage of the term "fuck buddy" and instead expects the rest of us to research your own personal...

I find it curious that you took my statements personally. I neither said nor implied that anyone's relationships here are emotionally damaged, un-meaningful, or that they believe sex equals love. If we can agree that polyamory means many loves, then that's good enough. Love is 100% subjective...

Besides the values you mentioned (communication etc), I don't have a specific list... I've always been the "go with the flow" type... and if the flow stops going, I take a step back and evaluate what's wrong. If it's something that can be fixed, I try to fix it. If it's a deal-breaker, I break...

I don't think commitment is what will help resolve this situation... I would have to say that commitment only comes in to play after all parties have decided what they want to "commit to." I guess in relation to "goals vs commitment" being the foundation of a relationship, your situation shows...

I'm really good friends with this couple who are both poly. Danielle* was telling me about a conversation she had with her seven-year-old step-daughter Jenny* about her little boyfriend at school. After asking whether he'd kissed her yet ("No, I can still run faster than him"), Danielle asked...

Don't mind at all, in fact, I'm flattered! You're right there. It's one of those quirks of english that something can be non-gramatical and still perfectly able to convey an idea. I'm actually not suggesting that people stop using the phrase "polyamorous relationship." It's useful to convey...

There are "the same types of women" in all those categories... but it sounds like all the women you've chosen have one thing in common: they like rich guys who take care of them. Believe it or not, that does NOT describe all women! Pretty much, yeah... I've never found truly rewarding...

Good! Life is boring when everyone agrees on everything! So I'm guessing you would describe the exclusive mono/poly relationship as "monogamous" and the non-exclusive mono/poly relationship as "polyamorous"? Actually, when you say it out loud, "My relationship to you is monogamous, and your...

I knew that would get your attention. ;) Don't worry, I'm not here to attack anyone! :) I've just been sitting here reading and pondering, and some things occur to me. I believe that it's the PEOPLE, not the relationships, that are monogamous or polyamorous. Relationships themselves are...

I want to pick up on the fact that the root of this debate is: "What is love?" That's a question that philosophers have been struggling with since forever. Do we honestly think we're ever going to solve it in any forum? Since polyamory literally means multiple loves, there's just no room to...

Hi! I'm recently married to a wonderful man, and I'm not sure how poly we are, but I'm definitely not a natural monogamous person... I have no desire whatsoever to be with any other guys, but I would really like to have a girlfriend. My husband completely supports this, encourages me to follow...