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    The search for clarity

    Yes most definitely I agree, space is good. I will definitely have the talk with her. In the past, we've usually skirted around all others and our conversations were more based on ourselves and our emotions. It is probably time to incorporate her OSO. From my understanding and from what she...
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    The search for clarity

    Thank you Pretzels...you've given me a lot to think about. I am definitely not 100% sure of what I want. It is something I've been working on for a while now. I know that I love her, and I want to be a part of her life...to what extent, I have yet to determine. I do greatly enjoy her company...
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    The search for clarity

    As I have mentioned before, I have not asked directly to meet her primary, though I do feel that I would like to meet him and feel him out. From what she tells me, he is a very understanding and mature person so again I'm assuming that the issue is not with her bf, but with herself not wanting...
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    The search for clarity

    I believe and trust her when she tells me he does. Though I have never met him or even spoken to him, she has mentioned on many occasions that they have had conversations about me. Early on in the first few months of our relationship, I believe our growing feelings for each other caused a rift...
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    The search for clarity

    I understand. I definitely have emotional needs that require fulfilling and for the most part, I believe she is aware. I definitely do not smother her. I only mention this because she has the tendency to pull back her emotions at times when she feels we are getting too close or that I have...
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    The search for clarity

    Yes I have told her that I've fallen in love with her. She has also expressed the same feelings. We have not really had the conversation of being co-primaries. It is a conversation I am working up towards, while I try and determine what I want from her. I have realized however that I do want...
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    The search for clarity

    Thank you for giving me some perspective. It can be difficult sometimes for me to keep grounded about things. if you asked me 2 weeks ago if I thought we were still in the NRE stage I'd say no...but thinking about it again I do believe we are still there and experiencing it much more than ever...
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    The search for clarity

    Thank you for being so blunt. I need that. I admit that I've thought about it one too many times. It would seem that during the first 6 months, I was dealing with it very well, I was dating others, out and having a blast with my friends and my confidence was very high. Lately it hasn't been the...
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    The search for clarity

    I definitely don't like the use of hierarchies to describe us, just thought I'd give some perspective. She has also thrown out those titles here and there, but I haven't made it clear that it bothers me...and it does sometimes. bookbug - I would definitely love to be a co-primary. It would seem...
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    The search for clarity

    As someone who is new to this concept, I am finding it increasingly difficult to control how I feel about her. It's been close to a year of great times and building this amazing connection. I would say that I'm currently in a Vee...with her being the hinge. She has a primary relationship, which...
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    Clarity

    Long time lurker finding this forum to be of great value in understanding myself. Trying to deal with this on my own and finding it rather difficult so I've turned to this forum many times over just to see what other people are experiencing and what they are doing about it. I guess there is...
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