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I am sorry to hear that. It is so sad to have to make that choice, I know. I am sure you made the right decision, it is that last loving act you have to do with a pet... *hugs*

Nice to see you here. Cool that your trip has been good! :)

That's lovely. :)

Seems like a tough situation for you emotionally. *hugs* I think you need to take a bit of a step back. I see that you feel very strongly that his relationships are his to manage, and you don't want to affect them. You don't want a say in what he tells his sub and you don't want to affect the...

I've been so busy with all the practical stuff around moving that I've had little time to think about what it is I want. Some stuff is obvious to me. I want to study and I will need to work (and want to start working already). I want to uphold my relationships with my partners. I've thought a...

Nothing new really, but recently I've noticed myself thinking that I do feel very polysaturated. I guess it is due to reflecting with Mya that I notice this. Although there are no agreements with my partners that would state that I can't start another relationship, I don't really see myself as...

It is strange. There is something new in this situation when Mya no longer has a live-in partner. Even though all of us have been poly and open from the start, somehow a potential new partner feels a bit more threatening. As so often, it is not really about any concrete thing that could happen...

I talked with Mya about my feelings around her relationship with Bob (fwb is still relationship) a while ago. I'll let her write about what she got out of it but I'll write about the feelings I've had. At times, when Mya has talked to me about her relationship with Bob, I've felt uncomfortable...

That is cool, life is great with such understanding people around you. :)

More poly-related post! Me and Alec have now moved to our permanent apartment! We'll be here at least half a year but maybe more. It's much smaller than where we were living previously (no way we could afford that size in Dream City because it's more expensive here), but I like it a lot. It's...

I have some poly things to write but just a little inspiration. So this will be a non-poly post, cause there's inspiration for that. http://artofmanliness.com/2011/01/24/dont-should-all-over-yourself/ Some thoughts about this article. I totally agree with the message, and happy to notice that...

I don't subscribe to hierarchy, but I'll switch the term primary for an established relationship, and secondary for a newer relationship in my answer, for convenience, since I feel that's what you're getting at. If you’re kinky, have you found that kink levels decrease as you get...

Interesting times. It is an adjustment to be living in the same city with both of my partners. What I feel most of all is excitement and happiness. Cool! :cool: With Mya it's a whole new situation. I love the fact that we can meet so easily. I love that the feeling of scarcity is not there...

nycindie, fuchka, Cleo thank you all for your comments! I do feel that I am reaching more clarity all the time in terms of how I think about autonomy, and how I feel I want to live. I was going to phrase that "how I want to arrange my relationships", but really, there is no reason to do so...

Before, I would have never thought so. And I've had a tendency to be drawn to people who have issues (likely because I relate although I haven't been diagnosed with anything). But. I have started to think about this quite a bit... Thought about how neither of my partners has any mental health...

I loved reading the whole of it. You write so well. Totally made me emphatise with every single feeling you describe. Lovely.

I noticed something recently about how I make decisions. I don't think I'm following the poly handbook on this. ;) It's been a long time since I came to the conclusion that once I live in the same place with Mya, I would like to spend two nights a week with her. I've mentioned it here, and...

Oh, end of your LDRing then soon, too!! Congrats! :) :)

The visit to Home Country was mostly good, I had a lovely time with Mya. After that I've just been organising load of stuff for moving, i.e. mostly job hunting. I fluctuate between being excited and a little stressed out and being a ball of anxiety. The latter is getting more pronounced as it's...

I haven't had the time/energy to write here much lately, but so glad to hear your good news! :)