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^Good examples! Also, one thing that can also be done in the steak/spaghetti situation is for each to eat what they wanted. Obviously, two different meals then will need to be made, but overall amount of cooking or costs don't need to be increased if both will eat the food they preferred on the...

I've been thinking about this a bit and finally am coming to some kind of conclusion. I'll be talking about romantic relationships. To start with, if a person informs somebody (e.g. a new partner) that they will not compromise on things, ever, it is very likely that they are the most selfish...

Oh, update! This has been working very well so far. Although his phone proved unreliable, so we switched the reminder to my phone. It hasn't been long, of course, but so far I am very happy. The discussions haven't been super-long, and they haven't had any specific agenda. Both of us simply have...

fuchka thank you <3 --- This has been working well. Actually, I've enjoyed rechanneling my energy and getting excited about something else for a change. I've read quite a bit about kink, and will probably continue at that for a while. Though while reading about kink it is unavoidable to...

I've been thinking about kink a lot lately. I feel that I want to write about it, but I don't know what to write or where. This thread seemed like an appropriate place. I've had sub tendencies a long time, but I've suspected myself to be a switch for a while and confirmed it lately in exploring...

I'm hoping for you. Your father sound cool, I hope it stays that way. *hugs*

Skype is the best. With regular video calls, I hardly mind the distance between me and Mya. I mean, I would love to have more regular physical connection, definitely, but with the skyping I feel us being in a relationship and connected even when apart. I don't think things would work without...

Lately I've tried to cut back on poly-related reading, and I've just been living life. I've had regular skype dates with Mya, and she will fly here to see me in couple of weeks. Alec has had a few days off work here and there, and we've been able to hang out together a lot. We've been getting...

Oh, excellent! :cool: Wow, you're insane! :eek: Not that I never go a week without, but if I have something hot to look forward to, which I spend a lot of time thinking about, it is more difficult.

I'm so sorry to hear those things, it must be very hurtful. :( Right now I'm thinking about the hardships RP had with her family when she told them about Mono, have you seen the thread? Just goes to show that really very hurtful things can be said and done by family, but then with time and...

Oh, most definitely. ;) I can totally relate to what you describe about your relationship with Gia; with the warmth and the underlying excitement. I've let my mind loose with things I wish to explore with Mya, which is all great except the circumstances don't come by too often.

I'm sorry there's so often another shoe to drop when things seem to be taken well. :( I'm sure she'll come around, though, with time. *hugs* I hate it particularly when somebody wants to closet me for their comfort. There are environments where I wont be out if I feel like it, but I will not...

For me, NRE wasn't too hard to handle. I guess I've had some situations before when I've had a crush that I've behaved in not-so-nice ways simply due to not knowing how to be considerate towards my existing partner. Later I felt horribly ashamed about that (though nothing really bad happened)...

Thanks for all who have posted. Anneintherain, I so totally agree with you about everything you wrote about guilt. For me there is very rarely any valid reason for guilt (i.e. having done something wrong) and very often it is simply my socialised emotional reaction. Your post about guilt is...

Wow, I'm so happy for you! Congrats on finally telling and it going so well! :)

I wonder if this kind of describing is doomed to be either too simple/narrow to fit all actual 2+1 relationships, or broad enough to make things seem more confusing than clear. As the descriptions stand, I find them a bit restrictive. For example, there could be a non-hierarchical V, where both...

Still more about guilt. There's a lot of judgement to polyamory in the surrounding monogamous culture. If you have multiple partners you will get your share, particularly if your partners don't have other partners. And even if you have great people close to you and face no judgemental comments...

For me all of the aspects I thought to list have needed their own processing. I think I'll share some posts I've made in my journal, and write some. [Likely not all today, I'll continue as I have the time.] My perspective is that of opening up an existing long-term relationship. What I wanted...

There are a lot of resources about how to manage jealousy or other stuff related to your partner having another love. I think the position of, say, a leg in a V (meaning you have one partner who has another partner) is considered to be more difficult to adjust to in our monogamous culture. Which...

I feel the same way about missing Mya. A month feels like a throughoutly long time. The time since Paris has went by quite fast, but at the moment it is crawling (for me the reason is very possibly that I don't yet have a job). Anyway, I'm determined not to be focused on that. We have a skype...