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When I first had sex with another person whilst in an incredibly loving, respectful, supportive and open relationship, I suffered terrible guilt. The person I slept with was more of a one-night stand. To be honest, I choose a one-night stand so I could explore my feelings about having sex with...

I'm learning violin. To say I play violin would appear to be stretching the english language a bit far :) I've been learning for 2 years and I play in a beginners string ensemble. Hard thing to start in your mid thirties...having never even learned to read music. My son plays trumpet and I've...

One of the things polyamory involves, for me, is accepting and cherishing love in your life, with the form of the love being secondary to the love itself. You share beautiful love with Faraway Sweetie. And yes, love sometimes hurts. My thoughts are with you.

Hey River :) I'll quickly jump straight over the banal blah blah above and say - Lovely to hear from you...You are very inspiring and I wish you all the best for your upcoming visit... I'm so, so, excited and happy for you !!

Thanks Charlie

Excellent !

I don't think you need to force yourself to a position where you wholeheartedly advertise polyamory. It's ok to let yourself off the hook on that one. When my non-poly friends ask me about it....I'm just honest. "It's actually quite challenging some of the time....lots of issues crop up and...

I have found some very useful enhancements to my communication style recently... An example of which I will describe; I had a client asking me a question. He wanted a direct answer.. I started by describing the landscape. He said - I want you to answer my question. I said - Yes, I can see that...

Conflicted emotions are fine. It's really the core of who we are. We do not feel the same all the time. Each and every part of you is important. The part that considers a happy triad - fine ! That part that fears rejection - fine ! The part that is head over heels for both - fine ! The feeling...

I made a pinhole camera with my son once. What fun ! Enjoy !

One of the most central issues/beliefs I have spent time on is the notion that what makes my love special is the fact is is given to one person. I really needed to strip that away and build this belief; My love is special. (FULLSTOP) This was a process I had to go through for myself, it was...

I also have one child...and he is very used to communicating on a very adult level. He is very emotionally mature for his age as a result of being an only child. He turned 11 yesterday. And during the past weeks, I have been conversing with him about my love coming to stay with us, and that at...

I'm reminded of my Sunday.. My female friend called to see what I was doing, and asked me to come over and hang out in bed with her and another close male friend of ours. There is no sexual or romantic relationships between any of us...but there is certainly LOVE :) "Do you want to come over...

That's a handy term !

hear you on these thoughts NYC, I've considered myself someone exploring the world that some people would call single poly or solo poly, in that I've not had a primary partner, and I've not really wanted a primary partner type set up. Yes...I think it is still the case that single women are...

I'd just like to echo some other people's posts. Yes...please get some professional help, this situation for you is not healthy...it's very dangerous. At the moment (and also all the time) you need and deserve deep and ongoing care. Find it where you can.... I had some very effective therapy...

That does sound difficult. You certainly do not deserve unkindness or insensitvity. The exact opposite I would think.. I hope you are starting to feel better...I really do. These episodes can leave bruises which take a little time, so you need to be extra kind to yourself whilst the bruises...

Derby, you so smart! :)

It's strange. I drafted at least 2 or 3 responses to this initial question, and then I couldn't really make a commitment. I think that is largely because I don't really care how people label themselves. It will sound harsh, but I don't really have any interest in what words people may choose to...

I'm back ! :) Yes, I'll add my thoughts of LDRs here for the moment, and then maybe in another thread. I've been in a LDR for 3 months now, internet based (3 hours of online talk per day), with phone calls every few days. We've both had people around us saying, "Oh, but you've not met face to...