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I have the utmost respect for all of you. Life is all about making the best decisions that you can, at any point in time. And if anyone feels like giving any of you a hard time, I'd suggest that person just go jump in a lake. The difficult times you have been through will not be eased by...

Perceptions Australians hold about England are of course, diverse. Older Australians tend to cling a little to the "mother country" concept and feel our relationship with England adds respectablity to our nation. The royal family are followed and adored by many. I think some Australians feel...

That's very funny ! It is interesting to hear people talk about their own country...widens perception to be sure !

I've been in a situation similar, except it was I that wanted to meet (also at about the 6-month mark), and his 2-year gf didn't want to meet me. The reason I wanted to meet her was because I wanted to make sure she was okay. I really felt I needed to sit with her face-to-face to be able to...

Oh, right...sorry - GFC may just be a term used here. It's an abbreviation we use for the Global financial crisis. And thanks for the trip wishes....We are very much looking forward to it. Another thing I hear about is how hospitable the people are, so....I do hear loads of positives too ...

Very interesting responses. Thank you - It's nice to have some anecdotal stories from you...and inward views. It can be weird when you only hear things from the outside ! Thanks for pointing that out. It's a common abbreviation used in conversation by non-US peoples in my experience. It's...

It is frustrating to me that I don't know how to use this website. at some point, I may invest the time to work it out. In the short term I wanted to say. Go Charlie - you're impressive !

I see gems here !

This forum seems largely dominated by North Americans. Which...is fine, and probably shouldn't be an issue. The reason I bring it up is because I host couchsurfers from all over the world. Total strangers stay in my home and tell me about their times and their travels. They tell me about...

I had a quick read of her blog - She comes across as very impressive in her capacity to understand the cycle and her emotions. Ups and downs to be expected, of course. When I forced my emotionally abusive ex-partner to leave...he dragged out the picking up of his stuff no end. He still had keys...

everything is easier said than done... except for talking, that's about the same.

Err... I have absolutely no experience with what you're going through, so I probably should resist the urge to comment. But... I think it's always okay to say, "I don't feel okay at the moment. I need some time and space." That's not a rude thing to say at all. It's respectful. It's about you...

Hey again FlameKat...I just read a bit of your previous posts to garner some info on where you are at present. I'm reminded of the pantene ad "It's won't heppen overnight, but it will heppen" (sorry kiwis - that was a poor attempt at putting your accent into written form...) Change can be...

I hear you. Emotional abuse takes away your ability to make decisions and to even think...ahhh... It's a terrible thing when you end up in a position where you don't trust your owns thoughts... Much better when your thoughts are your best friend, and you can trust them through and through. It...

"Conversion" is certainly possible. Probably not for everyone, no (and that is fine!!) The whole basis of change within society is that people begin to feel differently as ideas and knowledge and exploration comes to them. People convert their religions, which is a fundamental value system...

Flamekat - Congrats to you for getting out of a toxic environment, finding yourself and moving to a better place.. Not an easy thing to do for sure... But if the alternative is staying - Well, that would be the harder path to be on... Sharing stories like this does help people, Good for you !

I agree that we're not in disagreement..

You're welcome :) I agree that compassion and tolerance are different. People that are in a cycle of abuse are generally in a pattern of rationalising the abuser's behaviour by studying why he/she is abusing. Is he/she tired ? stressed at work ? Had a bad day ? ....thinking that more...

I've just written loads...which didn't save for some reason, so forgive me if it does turn up. It means I would have spoken twice - which I would be fine with in this situation. A young woman has raised emotional and sexual abuse, She is doing that as she needs firm voices around her to echo...

I agree with Fidelia - She does have to save herself. But what will help her is people around her saying "no, that is not ok".. But I originally picked up on the emotional stuff...as that is linked to my past. But am I reading correctly - She has watched him crawl into bed and try and have sex...