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To take it one step further, IMO many males evolved to feel ok with another man being more powerful. They are so-called beta males. They accept they're not at the top of the pecking order. They might still hide this fact in many situations, since society tends to look down on "weaker" males. But...

I felt poly when I was a kid, but due to romantic notions and society, I did not think my wants were realistic, and I thought I could be happy with mono. Now I don't want mono.

I agree it's sometimes a choice to live with the chewing noise, or find someone else. It's not that I care about every little thing. Though sometimes, I have a big problem being assertive because of my past environments making it scary to be assertive sometimes. I'm most confused when it's...

I mean small things that they could stop doing or change, and the person is otherwise seeming compatible. I know I shouldn't try and change them in most cases, but these are small enough? Say they want to give quick kisses in public and I don't like that. In fact, that example lets me explain...

I have always struggled with this general relationship issue. Say you have online chats or phone calls with someone, and you both like each other so far. Then you have your first, second, third in-person dates. Usually by the first date, let alone the third, they unknowingly do small things...

I hope to experience this someday. I think it would be hard for me to find two willing men, given that I don't want casual sex, and would need bonds with each. IMO, cuckolding originally included the humiliation and all, but now I consider it a broader term. Maybe it's a misuse of the word, but...

I'm really glad I read your article. Well done! I also loved reading Tonberry's view.

Oh, I tend to think we are born with predispositions for what types of poly we want, or if we are "wired" mono. I'm not sure about it. I know many believe genetics doesn't play a part.

Yes. I'm imagining a kid growing up in a poly family. Harder for them to be monogamous one day, after seeing a good poly example. (Though personally I think there is more to it than learning and nurture.) Did you see this huge thread about successes? Many of the positive posts are consolidated...

I'm not experienced, but IMO, many people decide to be poly, but that's a logical decision. Then something happens that triggers them emotionally, particularly if they suffered any kind of mistreatment before they became an adult, which most people have. So they have more of a gut reaction, or...

Thanks for sharing. IMO, you handled it better than most!

A friend of mine feels mono by default, and could be happy that way, but he got involved with a poly woman. He was open minded and willing to learn to accept her OSOs. He went through some discomfort over the years, but now he has embraced it just fine, and has his own OSO. However, some people...

Agree with the above quote. I agree with waiting and seeing.

Good quote! Everyone knows the "one door opens" part, but not the rest of it.

I think it's my least favorite language to receive, but it's a significant way I give/express love. I'm glad to read this thread and understand more about it.

I empathize with you, but also your husband. Please think hard about the consequences of divorce. For your kids, how you will look to your family and friends, and all the messy details. Do you want to go there? It seems to be constantly heading that way.

From what I can tell, a lot poly folks won't try a relationship with someone inexperienced. It is understandable if you realize most of them got burned badly, and usually more than once :( Within kink, it also makes sense that some are willing to work with a newbie and some aren't. It's their...