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So gals and guys, let me kindly give my opinion. I know you are trying to help but I am sensing what might be construed as hostility in the comments. I think hersweetleaf could use some more compassion here than "you screwed up". We've all fallen for people who are maybe not the best for us. It...

Lol, that's awesome. Maybe she just needed time to absorb and think. Fast text replies can be a good sign, at least. Hope you're having a great time!

First off, yay Walking Dead! Ok, serious now... Hmm, I hate how something can seem to be going so well, one gets their hopes up (sometimes more than they should... always in my case), but then the awkwardness sets in. The anxiety between parties involved... the "what if." Trying not to assume...

WOW what a small world. That's so funny cuz I looked at your location, saw "Seattle" and thought... naah it's gotta be somewhere else. And yes to belly dancers. Way to pick the perfect location for some intimacy in an already sensual environment. All the eating with your fingers, leaning in...

Yeah I could see that. Taking it slow and bracing for those speed bumps sounds like the way to go. And of course I'm totally open to Leigh reciprocating if she found someone too, understanding I'd still have jealousy to channel positively as much as possible. It was seeing her yesterday that...

Sounds lovely. We have a place called Marrakesh that's about identical to what you're describing and we love it. Very intimate indeed... hope you have a great time!

update... Told Anne, she seemed at first kinda excited and into me a little more when I told her my situation two days ago. She even has some poly friends so I could see her being receptive. But now suddenly she's busy and unavailable to spend time which could mean one of two things: the...

Magdlyn I see your point. I should stop assuming that Anne and I have this unspoken understanding and that we're on the same page. It's pure foolish tunnel vision and it's gonna get me into trouble. I am seeing her today and I am going to work it into the conversation one way or another. I am...

Wow good point. That sounds pretty bad. Anne doesn't know a thing about Leigh, not even her name. I realize now that this was a mistake but I was simply afraid to scare her off. And I know this is just semantics, but it wasn't officially a 'date', it just felt like one. We had lunch and then...

Ok guys and gals, first off this forum is a beautiful thing and I am so in awe of all who participate. I received some amazing support a few years back with a different situation which ended uneventfully, but now things are getting, um... interesting again. Been with my wife Leigh for 9 years...

Thank you again I am constantly and pleasantly surprised by the unconditional support and advice you all have given me, a wayward stranger. The encouragement really does help, more than you know. Or maybe you do! I wish I could return the favor. At the very least, I will let you know how things...

Wow that was a lot of work. Shopping for a counselor is complicated. But I have an appointment next Wednesday. Hope it works out. Thanks guys!

Wanted to say thanks again for all the input and encouragement from this community in my last thread. Redpepper and NyCindie, I feel bad that I never replied to those very insightful and helpful posts at the end there, I did read them and wanted you to know it was much appreciated (I pretty much...

Hey it speaks strongly of your bond with your wife and of your character that you are already thrusting yourself headlong into figuring this polyamorous thing out after being approached with it just a short time ago. I can see some parallels between your situation and mine, except that it is...

And it doesn’t get any easier, does it? Wow, what a week. Lots of info here. As I was gonna post the first half, another big thing happened that I couldn't leave out. Bear with me. Sofia and I had our talk last Monday. (Greeneyes, I had to laugh when I read your post, as I had already broached...

Very thought provoking post. I've been mulling over it for a few days. You've taken bold steps to take 'control' of your life. Okay, bad choice of words, but I couldn't help myself! And that's admirable. I agree with you on the overall point: I am, as you once were, very much entrenched in this...

It's totally understandable that you see yourself in a vulnerable position. Their relationship is solid. Now that they've created a solid bond, he has found you. Just like they had to adjust to each other and hash a lot out to become stronger, now they both have to adjust to you. But considering...

Status Update (P.S. I'm a moron) First, thanks to all. Onivel, I can really see the similarities between our situations, all the way down to the fact that your *J* was the catalyst for change, and yet she didn't pan out as an intimate relationship. Well, mine probably won't, either. I...

Nope, she is pretty traditional in terms of "one SO at a time," rather than sharing a person with someone else. Also I can easily describe her as competitive by nature, which isn't a huge leap from jealousy. I have never tested this jealousy, having basically no close female friends in the city...

Another male point of view Such incredible advice, opinions, and empathy from wiser and more experienced folk than you or me. I can’t imagine a better gift the internet has given us than places like this. Anyway, this man of yours seems to love you very much. My question: Does he also love...