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No, it's not a terrible portrayal, but the thing I don't like is that by exclusively focusing on the live-in model, non-poly people won't get an accurate picture or just one-dimension and think that is all it is---which it isn't. As you said, it is hard to have a "typical" example, which is why...

^^^^This. And frankly, if sexual exclusivity is all your marriage/relationship is built upon, it's not very strong. Just MHO...

I caught an episode of this earlier this week and was intrigued and somewhat disappointed. I wish they showed more than the live-together dynamic for one, and I agree, it is way too sex focused. In this episode they had the triad having a disagreement about the GF's outside BF, and it was all...

Was flipping channels and ran across this series the other day? Only caught one episode and have some mixed feelings on it so far. This episode only showed a MFM triad and a quad, all living together, so I am hoping they cover more dimensions than just that. Anyway, has anyone else seen this...

Interesting. Can you more clearly define what you mean by "out in the world Being social and friendly"? I have lots of friends (lots of women friends too) and talk with lots of people, but that hasn't helped much in a conservative area where the idea of "married and dating" is almost scandalous..

I'm curious to see the responses to this, as I am in a similar situation as your husband... I want them to have their time together, and we have even had some fun together as a threesome, but I have this other part of me that gets resentful and envious when they get their alone time, as I am...

Wow...I almost could have written much of that myself!!! Lol. I don't know that I can offer any advice, except to keep working on your own emotions and feelings and keep trying. But you are not alone in Poly Schizophrenia!! I drive myself crazy with it in regard to my wife and her b sometimes...

Well, I currently don't have a GF I am active with, but my wife has a BF and we have done the threesome thing, and it was pretty hot. But we are both very straight, and only share a friendship and the love of the same woman. So that combo was all about her. And while I enjoy seeing her...

To me, an OPP is only ok if it is truly a personal choice, and not an agreement or something negotiated out of a partner's insecurities and/or need to control. And I stand by my statement. Poly is way more than sex, and if you are hung up on such things and not on allowing a person to truly...

Wow... This entire concept is soooo very unfair, controlling, and sexist... Not to mention the personal insecurities that it just screams about!! And this is not a rule a truly poly person would even consider -- swinger or typical insecure & controlling male type more likely...

This just seems dishonest and misleading to me...

Thanks! Great perspectives and info, not too far from my own thoughts. Personally, if there is no lying and everybody involved knows and consents, and you act in a spirit of love for each other, I don't see how it could be sinful. We are following the Golden Rule, loving your neighbor as yourself.

Keep talking and give her time. One of the things my "wooing" of my girlfriends has taught me is to be cognizant of my relationship with my wife. Once I got past a certain zealous moment, I was able to see that I had been taking her for granted and had stopped romancing her and doing the little...

The NRE from my LDR is making me feel like a damn 16 yo kid again!! :D

Sounds like a great start!! :)

Wow. I'm not quite sure where to begin. First, you guys really need to examine what you each really want, and then COMMUNICATE with each other openly and honestly. A threesome is outside monogamy, technically, but isn't polyamory either. Without clear goals to start with, you will have a hard...

Honey, it's not just a girl thing, it's a HUMAN thing! :) It is natural to feel those pangs when someone you love is with someone else. But you have to choose to respond to those feelings positively. And as the mono half of a couple, as someone who doesn't experience the "double love"...

One of the hardest things to wrap your head around is the idea that it is okay to romantically love two people simultaneously. I can see how a monoamorous partner would have the greatest trouble with this. I know it is a major issue for my wife, at the moment, as well. I struggled with this...

This was the problem I had, as well. Just because something has been freely shared with you over a period of time does NOT give you ownership of it. I can let someone borrow my car for weeks, months, even years, but it still doesn't make the car theirs. Love is not a right; it is a GIFT, freely...

That response was so beautiful it nearly made me cry! I just wanted to cry out "yes!" as I read her realizations. As a poly married to a mostly mono who is flirting with trying things, yet struggling with my forming other relationships, it gives me hope. Thank you so much for sharing!