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    Long Term Poly Relationship Goals?

    I don' thave any specific interests in terms of numbers. I think more than 4 would get a bit ridiculous for me- I grew up an only child of divorced parents. Basically it was me and my mom for the longest- and I don't think I'd do well in a large family. I've mentioned it before, but I'm in it...
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    It wasn't clear. I reread the post and thread to be sure, and realized you weren't talking to me, so I edited that out. An asexual is a person who doesn't experience sexual attraction. "Want" is a very vague thing. Your desire to please your partner and fulfill their needs within a...
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    Yeah, that's pretty much it. You don't want to have sex for sex's sake. But you have a partner who has a need, and you do your best to fulfill it, just like in any relationship.
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    *sighs* No. I took something that, as a side effect, increased my sex drive. The main goal was to help me build muscle and improve performance in weight training, which it did. And that side effect didn't change my sexual orientation. I would never take something specifically to raise my sex...
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    I'm glad it helped some. :) I hope you find what you're looking for as well. I have neither of those. Physically, I'm healthy. I have a fine sex drive. When I took something to increase my sex drive, it didn't do a damn thing to my orientation. Emotionally I'm also healthy, with no incidents...
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    Brakes applied with brute force

    Actually, that's exactly how I'd treat that relationship- unless they were a median, that's a bit tricky to me- I'd treat each individual as their own person, so if I were dating more than one member, I'd be in a polyamorous relationship even if it was with only one body.
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    Request for advice regarding religion and poly

    http://christianglbtrights.blogspot.com/ is a blog for christian LGBT rights http://www.rainbowbaptists.org/christian.htm seems to have a list of queer-friendly resources for Christians. http://www.libchrist.com/bible/polygamy.html For Christians on poly. The whole site...
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    Brakes applied with brute force

    If I were dating anyone in a multiple system, I'd have to know that all the members were okay with it, or a significant enough portion (or however they deal iwth it- if you've got 20 members, but only 2 ever front, then I'd only need to know the 2 are okay with it, not all 20. Although it'd be...
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    There are repulsed asexuals. It's entirely possible he was one.
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    Ah, yeah. I heard of that in a webcomic, Girls With Slingshots. I had no idea women actually called them BOBs.
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    Er... "mechanized pleasurable entertainment"? What do you mean? Asexuality refers to a lack of sexual attraction. It is not celibacy or abstinence. Many asexuals choose to be both of those, but there are those asexuals who have sex to please a sexual partner, and even those who enjoy sex. I...
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    It is logical. I'm sure it's possible that three people have developed a triad before a dyad was started, but I doubt it's common. Of course, adding another person is generally easier if both people agree to it. My partner and I are asexual, so sex has never been a good marketing strategy for...
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    A grey area bystander

    There are times it's necessary, I can understand that- which is why it isn't something to complain about every time. But I think some people risk getting into the habit of doing it too much, and that's something that can be a problem.
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    Feel it's time for some extra support

    Wow, that sounds difficult. I can't give you any advice- but welcome to the site, I hope you find the support you need.
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    What I think I want from polyamory (as an asexual person)

    I am new to polyamory. About a year ago, I was introduced to it by a polyamorous ex. I looked into it a little, but didn't find any forums for it. (I don't think I looked that hard.) I more or less assumed she'd be good at guiding me, and if there were anything I needed to know, she'd tell me. I...
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    Brakes applied with brute force

    That sounds awful. Divorce is never fun- especially in a situation where you still love both parties and see nothing you can do to salvage the situation. I think that'd be a fear of mine if I were in a poly relationshpi, that the others wouldn't want to be with each other/me any more. I hope...
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    Am I Polyamorous?

    And she only had sex with the other woman. I don't see how polyamory into play came in at all, which further begs the question of how was it imposed upon him? If she started dating her behind his back and then said, "Oh, I'm in love now. You gotta get used to this," I'd agree she imposed it upon...
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    Am I Polyamorous?

    That is a tough situation. He had given consent, but was clearly uncomfortable with it. It probably would've been better to try and address the jealousy, and find out if he was genuinely okay with it, or just saying he was, before doing that. As SeventhCrow pointed out, it would have been even...
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    A grey area bystander

    It seems like they often overlap- the poly brings it up with their partner, the mono partner realizes it wouldn't work for them, the poly tries to respect that and at some point ends up cheating. :/ I think the love and family aspects appeal to me more, I've been reading polyfamilies.com, and...
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