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Just as I thought...everyone stays home. ;) Anyhow, just back from a bit of a romp across the country. Seems like most hotels threaten to charge for beyond two people in a room but rarely make good on it.

Pennsylvania and Wisconsin have self-uniting marriages. In my wildest dreams, I see making a case in Pennsylvania for a plural marriage via self-uniting marriages....

I don't think I can stress enough that you should first mend your relationship with your husband before building a relationship with someone else. It sounds like you've come to some pretty important revelations regarding your primary relationship but you need to act on those first, methinks.

So, we three like to take our show on the road from time to time for a quick weekend away or an extended roadtrip. We've done this from pretty much day one of being friends. Does anyone have tips and tricks to traveling with your clan/group/cult/whatever beyond always booking a king-size bed? ;)

I've thought a lot about this, too, since I still get a shit-eating grin every time I see the guys - together or individually. For me, I think the reason I still feel so intensely for them comes from a range of reasons - we're tremendous friends who, like you, aren't "friend-collectors"; we...

I spend most of the week away from the guys at work. They're home having fun little adventures and it's not that I'm jealous of them spending time together, I'm upset it can't be the three of us. However, restarting one's life in a new career means sacrifices...for now. Here's how I deal: I do...

Thanks! It took a long time and several mandated time-outs of "no relationships for me because I'm still a mess from the last one" for me to figure that out. This is a really interesting concept, especially when you put it in the context of polyamory. Since our relationships are not...

Kyle... I live in the city during the week for work (the commute would drive me insane) and then go home to the guys on the weekends. I've never been a big one for bars or staying out ridiculously late, so I take the time alone during the week to do the things I know the guys aren't huge fans...

Staying off topic... When I got my dog from a pound 10 years ago, I was getting a breed that I grew up with and knew quite well and I looked over the turn-in sheet that the previous owners had filled out. Reading through that was what sealed the deal. This was clearly the case of the husband...

I used to interview people for a living and I still actually consider myself to be a mild introvert. One of the things I do to trick myself into going out sometimes is not focusing on the first 30 minutes of going somewhere, but the next 30 minutes, when I'm already there and having a better...

Go. Be chill. You're making more of this in your head than exists from what you've described. You've gone out twice. You've had half a day of sexy time. She's likely going to introduce you as a friend since, well, that's what you are right now. If you're looking for practical advice-- show up...

Some thinking about switching the roles is good. Noodling and stewing is not. What I learned in my first poly experience is that people are together for a lot of different reasons and some of them aren't obvious. Thinking you know a couple's dynamic better than they do is bad, bad thing. Also...

I only mentioned that because I got the sense that's the level of inclusion he might be after in her life, although he doesn't come out and say it upon re-reading everything. I could be way off base on that, though. I like the second suggestion if only because it's a bit of perspective and it...

It is interesting but most of it takes examples from the animal world and extrapolates them onto humans. If I never read about another bonobo monkey family structure, I think I'll be OK. Towards the end, it pops over to some human-on-human interaction, but there are a lot of monkeys throughout.

You might want to give this radio show a listen. I found it fascinating in regards to the whole long-time couple opening up/trying new people dynamic. I'm not sure I would have structured what they did the same way, though.

Congrats from another idiot! I don't like that phrase a lot because I think it gets overused by many in the wrong situations. However, I use it when I know I won't see either of them for a while. It's important to give that injection into a relationship for me, but not drown someone in it.

Classy. And where you live and how much you get out of his paycheck if she decides to leave and sue for child support. I think that ship has sailed. I'm going to be blunt here - are you doing this triad just to show the world? If so, that might not be the healthiest reason. Also, what is...

I might be stating the obvious here, but you need to know what things are deal-breakers in your book. If you never meet the other person, if you never meet her friends, if you never meet her family...what can you live with and what will eat away at your soul? Also, be very clear and firm in...

Or you can post an ad over at this site and have people bid on bringing poochie out to you, if that's what you choose. Giving up a dog is a horrible decision to have to make. I did it two years ago when I took a job with long hours in a city. I left my dog with my parents knowing that my father...

Or, as much as this might suck, head home to hang out with Mom and leave his sorry, selfish ass there. Just. Get. Away. I was engaged once and we owned a townhouse together. After he (wisely) decided we shouldn't get married, I moved into a spare bedroom. Even in that less-complicated...