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I think part of the issue we've been going through as a MFM is that I'm the F and Fs usually go to the doctor sooner than Ms. We just have differing approaches to illness and getting wellness. In this case, E usually needs to have a major appendage dangling by an artery before he'll even...

Fair enough. The only poly situation (two couple quad) I knew that went through this was already well-established by the time the one woman got pregnant. They've done a lot of group parenting even post-dissolution. However, I can see your point in making a relative newcomer such a fixture in...

I think, in this case, T helps cut through the frustration I feel at times when dealing with E. In our different ways, we act the way the federal government was designed - checks and balances - against each other.

So, we're going through our second, real illness spread between at least two of the three of us. This time, it's a bad cold complete with sore throat that's kept me (the primary wage-earner who doesn't really get paid for sick days) home from work more or less all week. All of this got me...

What you need right now is a lot of communication, STAT!!!! Get your husband home, make him bring his lady as well. The three of you need to sit and come up with some sort of peace before the baby drops. You need to put exactly what you need on the table, so does he and so does she. Then, you...

All I can remember thinking at the moment was, "Huh, I didn't put that there" (as in the ring on the finger). I don't think we ever even talked about it being there or not being there when it went away.

Not married, not looking like I ever will be, but I did notice an interesting phenomenon with the married, poly fellow I was involved with about four years ago. When we started, wedding ring was on. I remember being in bed with him and thinking, "Yep, that's a first....(head explodes)" Then...

I understand the snowballing downswing effect, but seeing as I'm the relative newcomer to a longer-term friendship with limited physical benefits between the guys here's how things usually play out in our polyfidelity scenario: I get ticked at something E does or how he behaves as if he is not...

They may be the safe answers, but both Cowboy BeBop and Samurai Champloo have poly undertones. And the writing and character development is incredible to the point where I have to be forced to watch the final episodes again because I already know what's coming and I don't want to go there.

I'm pretty new to all this, so I may be completely off base here, but I think you should table any poly activity, especially at an already delicate time in your relationship (new, small, needy human being coming onto the scene), and focus on getting your relationship with your husband on stable...

Ding, ding, ding, ding. Unless she changes course or he gets a spine transplant, I can't see this going anywhere good.

We haven't told our families. To the rest of the world, T and I are together and just friends and roommates with E. Good parents will just be parents. Bottom line? They just want to make sure their kids are happy, safe and loved. That's why I go a bit out of my way to be extra hospitable and...

OK, I gave this a little more thought since, last night, when I first replied, I was in the middle of some mild drama in my own situation. What you have going here is someone who mentally and perhaps physically cashed out of her primary relationship - she was concentrating on finding someone...

You're not crazy. You're in love with someone, you're seeing him treated like a houseplant and you don't see a way to fix the situation. I dated a guy who was married to a woman who sounds a lot like your boyfriend's wife. If the woman in your scenario is really as self-centered as she sounds...

The more I think about this, the more I realize we might have done this backwards. The three of us have been good friends for years now, to the point where E and I went in on a big, rambling house 18 months ago. Nine months later is when the world shifted and things got to be physical. As for...

Even though I'm relatively new to a successful pol-fi thingie, I will say this, people change and get used to situations. Eight months into things, T is much more comfortable in our arrangement now, so I feel a bit more comfortable telling him things about the time I spend with E. What goes on...

Perhaps you should all be looking for jobs up in Northeast Pennsylvania...houses like that, "doubles," are a dime a dozen up that way. Literally. They sell for around $50k in some cities and towns and that includes both halves....

Everyone is with everyone in varying degrees in our situation. I know I can talk to E about most anything physical between him and T and him and me. With T, he's told me that he'll let me know if I'm telling him too much about things between E and me. I second the idea of curiosity and perhaps...

My oddball nominees: Chasing Amy The English Patient (although I doubt it would have worked out...) Samurai Champloo (anime series)

In our situation, the guys have been friends for almost a decade and have been in each other's families to various extents. If anything, I was the complete newcomer. You can tell there's a bit of puzzling out between some of the parents. Some are more curious than others, but would never ask...