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So I've not posted in a while, mainly because I've been dealing with my own stresses and every time I've sat down to write I've found the words not coming... But I've got to get it down quick while I feel the motivation. Ive not a lot to report Mr. A and TP are great, my friendship with Mr. A...

I am grappling with reconciling myself and the monostream as well. I am doing a pretty good job at it, but now it comes down to coming out (as I mentioned in my blog) and dealing with other people's monostream. I had this thought process too. When I opened up TP to girls for about 2 weeks and...

Yeah it was TP who first said she needed poly, but then it could be said that I gave the green light. In terms of discussion, I find that people have generally assumed I initiated the poly in a negative way. Like I am the jerk forcing my need for multiple partners on TP...like I mentioned in my...

I totally missed my opportunity to enact plan B: Drop you off at his house and yell out the window "TP HAS A BOYFRIEND!!!" and peel out of there :P

I left out part of the argument where my friend called the concept of an open/poly relationship 'nonsensical selfishness' I had asked her to explain this...she really didn't other than to restate that a relationship where you can be married and be with someone else is selfish...I replied with...

Something drew us together while push my friend and I apart So tonight I told a close friend about my poly relationship, honestly thinking that I had before and she would be accepting...the background being she 'had been bi' and had a child out of wedlock, and finally married her 5th...

So something went click this weekend... So as TP has attested we had a discussion revolving around redefining boundaries. I always wanted her ring on mainly as a mark to stave of cowboys; but I've realized after spending a lot of time with Mr. A that he's not one. He's been considerate of my...

To TP: "I'm trying to convince my fiancé's boyfriend to take her off my hands over night! so shush!"

Well it's news, and I guess good news...we've gone ahead and called off the destination wedding....not the marriage but two of the big stressors were planning the wedding and paying for the wedding. Not by any means were we were going to be extravagant but it would have drained our savings. So...

So TP and I were talking and some things came up that seemed really funny: "my fiancée is out with her boyfriend." "That's odd to read." "Frankly it's a little odd to type." "I don't want to get in the middle of a fight between my fiancée and her boyfriend."

So I've not quite had the energy or drive to post recently. I am out of gas when it comes dealing with things... TP and I are having our own issues, as you can read in her blog. She's right that I can take poly or leave it, but I can't leave her. I can suffer through the jealousy, anxiety, and...

That usually happens when she falls asleep on me. You think you're making a joke, just wait until I start in the Pavlovian Bell and liver treats disguised as jerky.

Go to bed! I didn't give you the overnighter to waste on me! Love ya!

That honestly made my day. Success story, since I have been dealing with my own issues of jealousy. New to poly and all that rewiring of my brain stuff. Preface being I had always had the guideline, still do, that I don't want to know about the physical intimacy side of things with Mr. A and...

Well it's funny how the brain works...and by funny I mean totally irrational and annoying...So Thursday night I start to feel like (for various reasons all of which were discussed at a later time) that I was secondary to Mr. A. It was absolutely ridiculous because even though I felt my time was...

So an odd little quirk ninjaed my brain this morning that I wasn't expecting...well not a quirk, and not a full on insecurity really...I don't know how to describe it. But TP has said many times over the past week/weekend that she's happier than she has been in long time. Now I will take full...

So TP just left to spend time with her boyfriend. It was going above and beyond generous of me, since we had agreed on 2 nights a week out limit, and I gave her this third one; mainly because I was going out with an old friend from high school. Well the old friend cancelled because she was too...

I think you just became my hero for creating that term. That is such a great thread Mono. I really like the idea of using relatable terms to explain what Poly means, I think in the past I had tried to explain it and got bogged down as you said "by definitions" rather than explaining it in such...

So I've finally got around to this blog. Can't help but be reminiscent of Doogie Howser M.D. with the journal entries... I guess I am poly now. Which is odd, I don't feel poly, still have all the same relationship wants and needs as mono...or maybe I am mono with a poly partner...I don't know...

I think you just became my hero for creating that term. That is such a great thread Mono. I really like the idea of using relatable terms to explain what Poly means, I think in the past I had tried to explain it and got bogged down as you said "by definitions" rather than explaining it in such...