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Opening started two or three months after I moved here, shortly before I got pregnant, or at least before we knew. There wasn't really any opening. there was, we were (I assume, having asked him on multiple occasions while we were dating and living apart if we were exclusive) closed, and then we...

I should probably wait to reply as we're not doing so hot right now. The first poster was right. It's me. It's me being down a lot and it brings him down and now I guess it's too much. Sometimes it feels like he thinks I can just flip a switch and be happy with the way things are. I have told...

I think it is something I did because when I asked him if it was, he said he didn't know. When asked again later, he gave a non-answer of "It's okay." I am upset because I don't know exactly what I did, or if it even is something I did. I'm upset because he's upset and I don't know what to do to...

On finances, me not being involved is his choice. I have no fear of dealing with the finances myself. I can manage money. I just get anxious when things are tight, regardless of which one of us is doing the budgeting. He occasionally mentions something when he's actively working on the budget...

I see the relevance. It could have a good deal to do with it. We live about 1300 miles away from my friends and family (he doesn't have any here, either). I don't really go out. I don't have the money, nor the transportation. Also, all the mom groups seem to be "full." I've never been good at...

I am very much monogamous. He is very much not. I don't like it, I'll admit it. It makes me all kinds of uncomfortable. I'm working on it, though. I love him, so I try. He's not looking for other long-term partners, though. Just casual, short-term dating. Earlier this year, he was seeing a...

Definitely tell. It can be heartbreaking to find out later, when there is emotional investment

Thanks for the add. I've looked at several of your posts on here and find them to be very encouraging. :)

heh. I've heard the car seat suggestion before. My first brother used to nap in his.. and pretty much only in the car seat. I guess he had some pretty bad reflux, so sitting up a bit was the only way he could sleep. Our car seat is a pain to take in and out of the car, though, so we have one of...

Hm. Can. Now I can; -Take more time for myself. I may need to ask for this time, but he will not deny it; he knows I need it. -Learn to focus on the positive things in life. He has other partners, but he comes home to me. -Learn what the root of my jealousy is. No one can do this for me, but I...

Fair enough. He can and does soothe the baby.. sometimes. Sometimes it has to be me. All the rocking, walking, playing, patting, etc that Daddy can do sometimes just doesn't cut it. I won't let the baby scream himself into exhaustion just to get used to being around Daddy more, so I'd rather...

Let me first say that I was not up all night stewing, I was just up. The baby and I both get plenty of sleep, but due to a recent bedbug problem, we've been sleeping during the day, when we're less likely to get bitten. This is one of many stressers in our lives right now that don't help...

First, I would like to say that I am especially glad to see your reply; I really enjoy reading your posts on here. You seem to think in a way that I wish I could emulate. Everything always seems so clear. Our son is right at 19 weeks. I have not been checked for PPD since he was about 6 weeks...

Thank you all for responding. I'm glad I'm not the only one. I had a bit of a breakdown tonight, which really was unexpected because I had just been talking to an online friend about how well I've been handling things lately, and the progress I have made. I guess I was thinking a few too...

I'm a mono female in a relationship with a non-mono male (open relationship, he dates around). I have issues with jealousy (insecurity, fear, occasionally anger, sadness) and envy that I am working on. This is a hard time in my life to be going through this, I think (new baby, no nearby friends...

Perhaps the lack of differences explains the lack of attraction? o.o I dunno. Sounds like great friend material to me, though.

I think I identify pretty well with the husbands and wife that have been mentioned. "I don't know" comes out of my mouth a lot when I can not articulate my feelings or am stalling for time to sort them. Or when I just don't want to bother to sort them. I'm working on it. I tend to say things in...

Invi is short for Invictus. Invictus is Latin for invincible, unconquerable, etc. It is also the name of one of my favorite poems, written by William Ernest Henley. I used to use Invictus a lot, but it is usually taken now. Some friends in a chat started calling me Invi a while back. I like...

I may have made this seem slightly worse than it is. I make dinner, but we don't usually eat together. Since we have a new baby, I'm usually sitting on the couch with him, eating as I get the chance. G stands at the "kitchen" counter to eat, sometimes not until after I've finished eating...

So I joined here a week or two ago (I don't really remember when) and have been lurking, but haven't really felt the desire to post on anything until now. I'm a mono female dating a non-mono male. He meets his dates online. I'm fairly new to dealing with this, as it started in the last year or...