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Back to reality Ah, we've made it back home to some adorable kids who were happy to see us. Enjoyed my weekend of easy time with FJ, being goofy and snuggly, sleepy and horny. It is just so natural to be with FJ. The perfect cool mountain summer weather didn't hurt either. It was such serenity...

Ahhhh vacation FJ and I don't get to vaca much. We have 5 kids!!! The closest grandparent is 12 hours drive, and she doesn't make it to town often. So this is a real treat for us. Laying around, not thinking about kids or chores or work. It's quite lovely. We are in a rustic cabin with a creek...

Random thoughts I hate my job right now. It's the first time I've worked full-time in an office since college or having my babies. I was excited to work full-time, and have benefits. But it's not doing it for me. I loved the autonomy of my previous job, which worked out to full-time hours when...

Just remember.... The biggest thing I've learned through all of this is to pinpoint the source of discomfort and jealousy. Have your wife ask herself WHY she's uncomfortable to be in a relationship past a certain point without your involvement. There's always a root to discomfort and jealousy...

thanks Thanks, Ry! Things feel good right now. I'm just trying to keep the balance and slow my brain down when I feel imbalanced, and get to the root of things. It's a good exercise for me not to over-talk every little feeling I'm having and find a way to deal with my shit internally. This...

Triad advice We are very newly exploring a triad, and all sorts of unexpected feelings have come up....you just can't really be prepared for everything. I concur with an earlier poster here who said that successful triads have started with one member of the couple dating someone separately and...

Unimaginable I can't imagine ever asking that of my gf if she and FJ wanted to have a child together. There's is no way in hell that would be a healthy situation for anyone, especially the child. And I say it certainly indicates she has some major control issues and doesn't view you as a real...

Now where are we at? So, to catch us up to now... MD asked for some space and a "break" a couple of times last month. The request usually came after an intense convo, where I would be pressing her to communicate her needs, etc. Here is where I admit that I did not handle this situation well at...

"Why on earth would you ask your husband's OSO if you could fuck him after he leaves her and comes home to you? Surely that is none of her business." Well, I wouldn't be asking permission, really. I just care how it makes her feel. But I have a feeling she doesn't care. She wasn't bothered when...

6 months can really feel like years! Shoo....I don't know if I'll ever catch up on this story! I have so much going on, I just want to go out of order lol. After our first threesome on that Saturday, the next Monday I got to spend the night with MD solo. Bug was at her dad's, so we had the...

Kernels of truth NYCindie, great thoughts here-- one reason I love this forum so much. I was thinking of her this night specifically, but for sure I can see that some of my hesitation is preserving FJ & my "special time," as well. Specifically with MD, I worry about her feeling like a third...

A triad develops.... Our first threesome was great. I was the one most comfortable with the whole situation. FJ & MD were obviously nervous. But they were cute, and spoiled the hell out of me. We started cuddling in our main bedroom, and lightly kissing each other. I was in the middle. I was...

They actually didn't end up having sex this date, so I didn't have to worry about it this time. I was just curious about how others felt. We will figure out our own boundaries and comfort levels and make them work for our relationship. Right now, I will just have to take it moment by moment to...

This is a practical question. I know everyone will feel differently about this. Do you feel comfortable having sex with your partner after they've had sex with their OSO? Why or why not? My husband FJ is about to come home after his first alone date with MD. I'm fairly certain they will have...

Budding Romance Well, MD and I eventually did end up starting up our romance again. I had a few work commitments that took me out of town, so we didn't see each other like we were used to. When I returned, she was flirting hard, and since my feelings hadn't changed, I dove headlong into it...

The saga continues Shoo... I took a break from writing about all this to actually deal with all this. I find myself wanting to catch up, though, so I can get to the current state of affairs. So, MD committed to making it work with her ex. I was fully supportive, and told her that I would never...

For what it's worth It really depends on what kind of support your husband wants from you. I know in my relationship with MD, when she started showing interest in her ex and we were still together, I just needed space to work through my feelings. I knew my hubs was there if I needed to talk...

Well, I am specifically asking whether I'm being unreasonable or not in how I am reacting to her actions. So I am being detailed about her actions to try and give the whole picture. You obviously think that I am being unreasonable, and that's fair. I appreciate your point of view. I absolutely...

Becca, it is a very valid feeling. I am absolutely okay with it being temporary and valuable in its own right. I'd love to take the advice of the others and go with the flow, but ultimately it's MD who gets hot and cold. She pulls away and stops the flow. Sigh.

Ry, they are talking about alone time, which I am encouraging. Their hesitation is with trying to respect me and what I want, even though I've told them I want them to have alone time. I think once they finally do have a date, and I don't freak out, they'll feel better. Idk. I'm rolling with it...