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Feeling better The trip was great. I really got a lot of reassurance about MD's feelings for me. We got to hold hands openly in a Wal-Mart lol. Super classy, but hey, we can't be open publicly where we live, so this was a big deal and I was on Cloud 9. We've had another threesome since we...

Thank you I may just have to start a blog here because I find myself wanting to update. Posting here has been very helpful, as has reading through others' stories. I keep focusing on the incredible bond that MD and I have, and focusing on nurturing each separate relationship. I am now on a...

NRE And can I just state for the record that it's fucking hard to deal with you partner's NRE when it was so recently directed at you? It's hard to keep talking myself down from the insecurity of not being important to MD when she is so wrapped up in the newness of FJ. Argh!

Not necessarily OT It's one thing to walk in on your parents, but an entirely different one to walk in on your dad and his gf. YKWIM? We deal with sex questions very frankly in our home. The kids have questions and we answer appropriately. For example, my 10-year old son had the talk and then...

Here goes nothing... I set my boundaries with FJ, communicated my insecurities to MD and received reassurances from both. I've been working on the root of my jealousy and I feel good. Tonight I'm working a side gig, one I absolutely love doing, and MD and FJ are having dinner at our house...

Being straightforward I need to write these things down. Straightforward is usually my style, but I don't want to feel like MD is saying things just because they are what I want to hear. Guess that's why I've been a little fuzzy at times. This way of phrasing it is good. Thanks!

Update We have talked a lot, but unfortunately not formally. Saturday ended up being a day we hung out because someone MD worked with and has known forever committed suicide the day before. Mostly we hung out to take her mind off things. We went out, and then back to her house to hang out. She...

Tonight is the night MD, FJ and I are hanging out tonight sans children. I am back to feeling really good about everything, and hopeful that tonight goes well. FJ and MD have both been checking in with me and very supportive, and so I feel amazing. One concern is that MD still keeps saying...

Great article Thank for the link! What a great read on jealousy!

I am extremely reassured. It seems like she is being more vulnerable and willing to talk. This is a relief.

Forever? I'm not sure. I feel like I can imagine a safe space where my needs are being met and be okay with it. But I didn't think I'd react like this, so who knows? I just feel selfish asking for something they're not asking for.

What to ask for? That's a good question. I am not comfortable with the thought of them together solo. Is that my issue or something I can ask for? I get alone time with them. I don't want to dictate their relationship. But I am not sure I could handle that level of a relationship between them.

I'll try... That's the plan, to talk on Saturday and lay it all out on the table. We are not irrational or pouty at all. My biggest question is: what do I have the right to ask for? Yes, I can voice my concerns and fears. But then what? What am I asking for? I've had so much freedom to explore...

Main Concern I have identified my main concern: Since this started, I have had all of the intense feelings focused on me from my two partners. I worry that now they have these new and very exciting feelings for each other, that they will lose their intensity for me, that I will somehow be left...

Update Thanks for all the advice. I'm still working through the feelings, and getting my partners to talk to me about theirs. Considering they are both introverts who tend to hold things in, this is difficult. In fact, as an intense communicator (I've led communication seminars and majored in...

Continued... Now to this week. If you're keeping tracking of time, this is just a mere eight days since our first threesome, and two weeks from the subject coming up. Mondays are MD's nights off of work, and FJ and I were both really hoping she would come over that night. There had been lots...

I feel like I should link to my stories before diving into my newest poly struggle: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=40446 http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=44029 But I'll try and summarize here as well: My hubby FJ and I have been together since I was 14 and he...

Yes! This is so true, I hadn't thought of it like that.

Craziness Since the first time we all were together, we have have now been all three together three times. In between, MD & I have been together solo three more times, seeing each other on lunch breaks, etc. And when we haven't been physically together, we've been texting non-stop. Obviously...

This is exactly what I told her, and I think that's helped. She apologized for "emotionally vomiting" all over me with her reaction. I am slowly talking to LT more often, and I let her ask about MD, or if she asks what I did over the weekend and MD was part of it, I tell her. So far, she's...