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No way I would not meet with both on a first date. If we were meeting at some kind of event that we happened to be going to (i.e. not a date), I'd be marginally ok. First, first dates where you find good chemistry are a low probability event. But it's hard enough one on one, let alone with a...

I think this unfairly characterizes / trivializes the problem of mismatched libidos in a relationship.

Ha ha! That was my first wife to a tee! Went to counseling and we planned on having a daily 30 minute focused talk for us to work on our communication. She wouldn't do it because "it doesn't count if it's not spontaneous." That was her reason for resisting virtually all our counseling exercises.

Manwhore I hadn't heard the term "manwhore" before but if you think that it's not a slap in the face, think again. Talk about loaded!! I did a little research, there are a number of articles about "manwhores" and the general idea is that it's a promiscuous man who has no regard for his sexual...

Besides not comparing, don't believe everything you hear. Perhaps it's a matter of experience but I've seen plenty of "deliriously happy couples" who were completely miserable under the hood. But they kept up a beautiful facade and we were all "so shocked" when they got divorced. Life is not...

Take some time for yourself to regroup. Then find the lover(s) you deserve who will respect and desire you.

One potential pitfall has to do with your perceptions of her relationships and vice versa. I was in a similar situation, almost word for word. The new partners on a rotating basis was very stressful for me at times. Likewise, at times, she stressed out over my "romances" which see saw...

Just as a note, it's better to use alias names rather than initials. Somehow that makes it much easier to follow and respond. I think you're on the right track. You can only control your behavior. You are certainly free to post on social media when ever you want and text whomever you want...

GRrrrrrrrrrrrrrr >:-( Nothing pisses me off more than hearing that. Huge red flag, screaming sirens, etc

I think it partly depends where you are finding these people. I haven't had this issue with women. But I've heard from several women that a lot of guys (on okc at least) say they are poly to get laid but once a relationship develops, the mono side comes out. Is there a poly community that you...

Talk to your partner asap Talk to your partner about the lack of sex and possible solutions to that. Polyamory is one possible solution but there are many, many others. Right off the bat, poly requires a lot of honesty and communication so even if you have poly as a desired outcome, you need to...

It's all in the weights I haven't read the entire thread so I apologize if someone has touched on this. As a statistics junkie, it's all in the weights you give to your answers. So if the importance is "a little important" vs. "Very" for certain questions, that has a dramatic affect on the...

Transitioning From my own experience, contact during the transition definitely delays and prolongs the process. The amount of time, for me, is somewhat dependent on the depth and length of the relationship but there's no exact number. If contact is unavoidable, I would suggest you do what you...

Give yourself time Give yourself time. It will happen in the time that it takes. My wife passed away in 2009 after a long illness. No matter what you do, it will be too fast for some people and too slow for others. Some people will tell you that you're doing it wrong. You don't need to...

Greeting! Hi Gidget, Thanks for joining me on here. I've been here since 2010 (wow!), it's a great resource. See you soon!

Couple mistakes longevity for quality Just read the entire thread. These kinds of discussions always make me think of of my favorite Onion story of all time: couple mistakes longevity for quality. "Those close to the Rafterys are also said to have mistakenly referred to their paralyzing fear...

Meetups I met two awesome women through meetups. I have not seen the disparity between men and women but I've heard people talk about it. Nevertheless, the key factor is that I don't go to these meetups to meet women and never "to get laid", I go there to have a good time. The best things...

This is a good topic. This is a good topic. Bea and I recently transitioned to a platonic friendship for now. It was particularly difficult for me because she did not know what she wanted so it was all very ambiguous until, well, today actually. I didn't do well, I withdrew from my...

I agree with everyone's comment that you need to get to work on the depression as soon as possible using whatever means necessary. Start with your own. As they say when you're flying, put your oxygen mask on first before helping anyone else. I struggled with depression along with a partner in...

Jealousy First, many of us do feel jealous. The difference is what you do with those feelings. There are many good references out there, you might start with the site More Than Two in general or about jealously: https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousy-insecurity.html I have dealt with jealousy...