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If you're going through hell, keep going. :)

i like going to the supermarket, I'll pretend its for something i need but the abundence and variety makes me feel lucky and safe :o

hey I lost my virginity in a threesome but it was a VERY different situation to yours. It was a drunken casual sex encounter with a girl i hit it off with at a student party and her boyfriend who i thought was cute. none of us thought through the emotional consequences, at the time all i knew...

Along with the above, I really value communication, but sometimes the only person who can make you feel secure is yourself, its trying to figure out where those lines are that can be the bitch. I do a simillar thing to grounded spirit in that I try to parent the little insecure person inside...

Along with the above, I really value communication, but sometimes the only person who can make you feel secure is yourself, its trying to figure out where those lines are that can be the bitch. I do a simillar thing to grounded spirit in that I try to parent the little insecure person inside...

As I thik I may have said before I'm female and working it out. I've been physically attracted to a number of people who fall on different places on the sex and gender spectra. All this discusion re body part made me think, I'm more drawn to shapes, the curve of fininine hip and waist and...

So, mono ideas? As you know, I'm a newbie exploring sexuality and sexual relationships. Currently have quite a shiny intense emotional thing going on with a lovely poly couple (incidentally, met introduced through OKCupid, cheers Ceoli, may owe you a pint) but he lives in another town (we've...

Thanks for the amazing thread. It is really helpful. It's good to think things through. From what I've seen, RP and PN are aware of your need for privacy and respect it. I think (and from what I can gather, they think) you have the right to your own space. Remember that. I know theory can be...

Thanks guys :). The scale is purely mono to poly. Tried ammending orrigional post to frame this question more clearly (but couldn't get it to edit). I Am interested in how people feel they fit on it (or not) an why. It is a unitary scale. 0=totaly monogamous - could never be in a...

As some-one currenly navigating her way arround how relationships might work best for me I can only say I know asexy poly can exist (maybe check out AVEN or A-positive as asexual fora) Asexy relationships are simmilar to sexy relationships except sex is not a priority for either partner (or they...

thanks R, btw love the signature :) RP the bubble idea's interesting, I totally agree nothing is set in stone. I wasn't trying to make a unifying/all encompassing thing. I was asking how people feel they are on an imagined spectrum in order to explore that dimension. From what i've...

Please don't delete your posts unless you think you were off toppic. I am open to suggestions, I'm just having difficulty understanding. From my perspective you took a sharp detor from my question. I understand that "sexual orientation, relationship style and love style" can be viewed as...

ok, I get that you don't think poly is a sexual orientation, fine. would you like some salt for the chip on your shoulder? (Sorry if that made me sound like a dick, obv no offense meant. I just REALLY wasn't going down any this poly is more poly than that poly Bullshit) or trying to...

sage, from the way I've been thinking about it, yes your experiences/wishes probably do put you arround three. I don't think you have to have a wide range of experiences to place yourself (roughly, this is obv all just speculative) on a scale, I know straight and gay people who have never tried...

Thanks for sharing your experience :) I suppose for me I find it almost impossible to conceive of myself in a mono relationship, thats why I put myself at the far end, I think theres might be more fluidity for those in the midle eg for me on the trad kinsey scale there are times i'm more...

*waves back* ooh sliding fits with sexual fluidity moddel :) If you don't feel the need/v strong preference to be poly or mono maybe you're round 3? You guys still coming on tues? *getting excited* :D

Glad of that, esp as if you were a zero you wouldn't likely be on here (long) and we'd miss your perspective, have good eve :) incidently the majority of my r/l friends are zeros

Did a search and and couldn't find anything specificly on this but obv please redirrect me if its been covered As you may know I believe for me polyamory is a sexual orrientation. I am bi but don't think I really fit on the kinsey scale because the idea of a relationship with only one person...

that sounds horrible :( I'm affraid i have v limitted first person experience with life partner relationships but with my deep friends and family and their s/o my instinct is to interviene as gently as possible. Incidently i think you can and should carry on being supportive to your sweety...

I was in a deep, dark hole. I climbed out because I started to like to much. -Marvin the paranoid android