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Yeah, you're right. It could be very heavy implantation bleeding. There is peace for now. H apologised for sulking and being passive aggressive all day. We all want this peace to last. I told her last night that if she was going to keep treating me this way in my own home that she had to leave...

Well, the good news is, she's not pregnant. Having an early period/failure to implant. Phew. Things are still quite tense. We had another talk where we rehashed the same issues, but made a little headway. H is still frustrated with me about how intensely I reacted last night. She explained...

Helen was going to leave. G convinced her to stay. He says I should try to talk to her. Frankly, I don't know what to say. She won't even make eye contact with me. She leaves the room when I come in. We are managing to conceal the drama from the kids, but things are tense. I'm sure they...

You're right. Though they are attempting to change some behaviours, they are still showing me a fundamental lack of respect. I keep expecting them to realize they've been neglecting me, or outright treating me poorly. And while they took action to make me feel less neglected, they still refused...

Thanks, Natja.

Thanks, GalaGirl. I am not being abused to those stages. I am not threatened with violence or isolated or controlled to that degree. I have been in the past, however, so I know what that looks like. I know I am in a partnership with a selfish and irresponsible person who is not respecting my...

You're right. I'm just so scared.

Am I being unfair in making my needs trump theirs? They feel like I am. Like I am dictating the terms of their relationship and that is unreasonable. I feel like they are working as a team in trying to overcome the adversity that is my needs and "unreasonable demands." I just feel so alone and...

As GG would say, everything is still full of UGH over here. Yesterday was a good day. I felt appreciated, safe and cared for, and like they were taking steps towards recovery from this crisis. I went to bed early after a nice cuddle and talk with Garth, and confirming with Helen that she would...

Didn't see this comment until now. This is all very well stated and I really appreciate it. As for the Helen leaving post-abortion, she feels like she will not be able to stay and be present for and involved in us raising our new baby when she has just has to terminate her pregnancy. I can...

Yup yup yup.

He is still clinging to the fantasy that she and I love each other, and him, and we all raise our children together. And the sad part is, that might have been possible. But not like this.

She is finished with school. But yeah, she 22. She just met this guy. And you know what? He might be really awesome, and she might be sooooo in love, but he's kind od an asshole, dontcha think? Maybe she should give it some more time before she decides to be linked to him for life. I know I...

Helen also said if she has to have an abortion, she won't be able to stay after that. Garth is hurting and resentful of me for that. He's the one who recklessly tried to impregnate her. I have made it clear if they want a baby, that's their choice, but I can't support it.

Thanks again guys. We all talked last night. Helen finally gets that they should try to keep it in their pants more, and use discretion about when is an appropriate time for them to be having sex if I'm in the house, especially in light of this breach of trust. I felt supported and cared for...

You are spot on about everything, except that he is a good father to his children. He's more involved and engaged with them than any man I've ever met, which is probably why Helen wants to reproduce with him. It's certainly part of why I did. I stayed at a friend's house last night. I had some...

I know. I can see what he's doing. He isn't quite as textbook abusive as you are assuming, but I'm not saying that to minimize the way I am being treated right now, or how he treats me in general. Acting like I'm overreacting, and creating problems, when they've just done something as...

I am only taking my biological child, the toddler. I really don't want to leave the kids. But despite being in their life for the last 3 years, they aren't my children. They are his. (They are 5 and 7) My finances are nonexistent. I haven't had a job since before I got pregnant the first time...

I just sent this text: "I don't want to leave. I don't want to break up. But you guys want to have sex every day, and that is too much for me to handle right now. I suppose we are at an impasse. I don't know what else to do." To which he responded, "We can stop having sex. Just tell me. " I...

I packed a bag. The kids are at their mom's until Saturday. The baby and I are going to go stay at a friends' for a bit. Last night didn't go well, obviously. It seems all they care about is having as much sex as possible, and only care about my feelings insofar as they prevent that. Garth...