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Long messages are cool (I love rambling on about crap), but when you're sending a first message, you're essentially sending it into the aether, with no real idea if it's going to to even get seen, let alone read and let alone responded to. Online dating is a little bit of a numbers game, in that...

For me, the thing about messages is that both groups (men and women) are ruining it for themselves: - Guys sending out bad messages make women want to do it less. - If a girl doesn't respond to any message that a guy has put effort into, the guy will either put in less effort, or just stop...

Some tips for your husband: - Get some absolute high-quality pictures. Pictures really can be a deal-breaker, so make them the absolute best that you can. - Message LOTS of people, especially people in your area, even if just for friendship, at first. - Set your searches to filter only "People...

To me, what you're describing is polyamory. To me, it's the ability to love more than one person. I believe that all humans are naturally polyamorous, and monogamy and non-monogamy are relationship SYSTEMS, to which we have preference, based on a whole host of factors that are unrelated to that...

The problem is, you're trying to create a logical discussion based on your own EMOTIONAL response to something. Your assumption is that the large majority of people get into monogamous relationships because of your reasons 1 & 2 is simply baseless. If this is a truly logical argument, where are...

This sounds like huge drama to me, which I hate, so I'd be making myself scarce, throwing myself into other projects/relationships etc until the other person came around. If they never did, it'd be sad, but that's how relationships are sometimes. That's sort of both, sort of neither, a kind of...

Lack of communication. Common issue, but absolutely deadly. If he's not giving you the communication and speed that you require, then you're going to have to be the one that fronts up and starts talking to him about it. I can't make any judgements on the situation because the two of you aren't...

Why the need for labels? I'm pretty sure the guy has a name which serves a much better purpose than "my boyfriend" or "my friend". One thing we try and do in our poly relationships is introduce and refer to each other by our names. Often people don't even really care what the nature of your...

In fairness: 1. The guy sprang the whole triad thing on her after LYING to her that he was broken up with his ex. 2. He is desperate and needy (not a bad thing, but definitely unattractive) 3. He's basically giving her an ultimatum here 4. He's only interested in his OWN desires. The guy...

While I'm far more interested in "what works?" than in notions of "what's fair?" I would point out that your husband went through a lot of personal soul-searching to come to terms with your polyamory, and if this is what he wants (and what he actually wants rather than just a tit for tat phase)...

Potential long post incoming, so apologies in advance. I personally believe that polyamory and monogamy are completely unrelated things. I think polyamory is the personal capability of someone to love more than one person, and I think this actually applies to all humans - that is to say that...

I personally believe that people are polyamorous rather than relationships. To me polyamory is the ABILITY to love more than one person. Monogamy on the other hand, imo at least, describes a relationship (mono - one, gamos - marriage in origin). Non-monogamy would therefore describe all OTHER...

You're getting tied up on the whole facebook thing, it was really only meant as an example of how people define their relationship status, i.e. restrictively. Just ignore the word "facebook" wherever it appears in my post, and just think about relationship status. It's not about applying...

Haha sorry, that's what happens when I think and type at the same time. It should be facebook style relationship STATUS. I'll explain what I mean by it below. Basically on Facebook, you select your relationship status as Single, In A Relationship, In An Open Relationship, Engaged, Married etc...

Why are you telling them you're in a relationship? I generally don't tell people I'm in a relationship until I want to form a new relationship with them, same way that I wouldn't tell people I was single if that were true. The fact is, I'm free to form relationships and so I go and do that...

Out of interest, why were you on the floor?

I'm not familiar with light work, but one way that I've actually tried is manifestion. If you're not familiar with it, I'l briefly run down what it involves: 1. Create a (specific) list of exactly what you're looking for, and include a time scale for when you want to receive it. Read it at...