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So this weekend I'm going to my family reunion for the first time in about six years. I'm bringing my fiance Andrew, and one of my partners, Lady, with me. Now my dad's side of the family as far as I can tell is at least partly pretty old fashioned with a lot of stock in the Christian faith. My...

Well, it sounds like you are worried about both how to tell her, and what will happen if you do. As far as how, personally, I'd just be honest. I would start with mentioning that you have been researching polyamory and have begun to believe you might be able to live that sort of lifestyle and...

I definitely agree that cheating doesn't always result in a bad situation, and yes, people are human, they make mistakes. That said, the act of cheating which is in essence dishonesty, I can't say is right. I think that if someone does slip up (and I know I have in a past relationship), you...

I've been involved with married people before, though never monogamous ones. If someone is in a monogamous relationship, they are completely off my radar. In fact, I get a little upset if someone who is in a monogamous relationship with someone else tries to pursue me (and I mean in a serious...

Give it time honestly. My mother is the only person I came out to who didn't react well initially, she thought it was just an attempt to sleep around and that it was unfair to my now-fiance. She believed even though she barely knew him at the time that he was okay-ing it just to placate me and...

It sounds like you are taking this very rationally despite your jealousy, and handling it wonderfully so far. I would say the main thing to remember is communication, talk about everything as much as you can, and don't hide any feelings or thoughts no matter how silly or unimportant you think...

My fiance and I have been together for almost five year now, with him monogomous and me poly the entire time. Honestly, it hasn't been all that difficult because he doesn't usually have issues with jealousy, which I believe is because he is secure in our relationship and has seen that my...

I'm as certain as can be about the size of my group. Theres four of us involved including myself, and unless someone is very good at cheating behind our backs, thats it. If someone new got involved, they would need to be tested and we would need to trust them enough to know they weren't having...

It depends on the person. My fiance and I became fluid bonded within a couple months, but then he also had never had any sexual contact at all before, so testing wasn't an issue. I didn't do anything involving fluid exchange with my partner Lady until about eight months, although I did trust...

From what I've seen, I'm pretty strict with anything sexual, actually, very strict. If I'm going to do something that exchanges fluids I need to: 1. Trust the person to be honest 2. They must be tested. 3. They must not be involved with anyone else who has not been tested. 4. I must trust...

I definitely understand what you mean, though not necessarily in this situation. I've definitely had times where I wished I had friends who would accept me for who I was and care for my unconditionally without trying to change me. I have never had a problem with polyamory and my friendships...

I'd say be upfront about it and just ask. Don't accuse or act as though he's done anything wrong, because you don't know if he has, just be curious. Tonberry makes a good point, it could very well be there isn't an option for poly, or he didn't realize if there was. If thats the case, I would...

Honestly, I don't think you should categorize yourself as totally alien or odd because of any particular interests. I don't think that in any way would make you hard to like or be comfortable with. For example, I'm about as odd as they come. I'm into all manner of odd geeky pursuits (very...

I would highly advocate being honest from the very beginning. I would also recommend being both blunt, and very nonchalant about it. I have found with this (and many other things, like involvement in BDSM, other alternative lifetstyles, misunderstood religions, etc) if you are completely...

I'm a wolfeh for sure. I've always been fascinated by them, and often felt I could be just as happily a wolf as a human. I even acted like a canine as an infant and child, without ever being around them, which I find amusing. I still tend to get kinda growly when mad, and am fiercely...

I'd say be honest. Let him know that he gave you the impression he was going to check up with you about saturday and why you had expected that to happen. Also let him know how him not doing so made you feel. I think you should iron out with him that you have trust issues because of past...

1) Define "polyamory" in a sentence or phrase. Multiple relationships (of the option of having such) with the knowledge and consent of all involved. 2) Give us a quick snapshot of yourself. Whatever you want to share in a few sentences, including whether or not you ID as poly. I've been...

I'm a polyamorous person in three relationships, one of which with my monogomous fiance. I've had poly relationships for almost all my life, and have dealt with feelings of both jealousy and envy, which were at times difficult and destructive, but lead to me learning a whole lot about myself...

Nice to meet you! I'm new to this community as well, though have been poly with my fiance for almost five years, and been in and out of poly relationships for a good while before that. It often is difficult to find a partner that will get along with and want to be with both parts of a couple...

I definitely think there is a chance that people would accept your relationship. I've been polyamorous with my fiance for almost five years now. At the moment we are also involved with two others. I've been upfront with my family from the start, and while they initially reacted badly, through...