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I got to work today and gave J the rabbit which she loved... and the day went swiftly downhill from there. She's met someone, and is waiting for him to call. I'm completely at a loss... I don't know if I should tell her my feelings, if I should back off and hope she's happy with him or what I...

I was talking to J over IM earlier today, she's been feeling sick so I've been doing what I can to take care of her. I remindered her that just because she doesn't have family living in town doesn't mean she doesn't have people that care about her, and she accepted it without comment, but did...

My wife (Tonberry) and I have a good approach to how to make sure any potential partners know that it's okay: we make sure they get to meet both of us. So just reverse that rule, and ask when you're going to get to meet their partner, if they're in an open relationship. If they say they don't...

It all sounds to me like you're experiencing a healthy attitude towards your girlfriend's polyamoury. I felt the same way when my wife told me that she was in a relationship with her boyfriend, I just couldn't be jealous because she was so happy about it. So look at it this way, you love your...

Since I haven't heard from her yet, I think it's safe to say J isn't coming for dinner. :( Maybe I was a bit too forward and scared her off a bit? EDIT: J's problem with her knees was acting up so she went straight home after work, and didn't think about the invitation to dinner. My...

She hasn't confirmed yet that she's coming over, so I'm trying not to get my hopes too high. I'm honestly not sure if I'm getting some mixed signals from her... today she seemed a lot less... flirty, I guess... than she was on Sunday, but there was another coworker in the room. I just don't...

I had a thought about this earlier this morning, and I think a part of the missing context is important... there was a mutual friend of J and myself in the room. J is straight as well, so she could joke about marrying Tonberry freely and have it be "safe", but when she made the bigamy comment...

Confusion sums up my feelings quite nicely... in fact yesterday seems like one giant moment of "wait... what the hell just happened?" After Tonberry made her post, I had some time alone with J due to our other coworker having to leave early during the part of the day that's pretty much down...

Commenting that I finally have a "wingman" and it's my wife.

I'm new myself and I was, so I can only guess the same would apply to you. Start up your own intro thread with a bit about your life and join in the discussions. It seems like a pretty open and accepting community so far, and I don't imagine that changing.

As Tonberry mentioned, over the weekend (well, Monday actually, but it was a day off for me so it's close enough) we had J over for dinner. The evening went quite well, J seemed impressed with the food, especially that I'd made greek salad, which is one of her favorites. She and Tonberry got...

Well, I wouldn't say so much that the wiring changed so much as I took some time to rethink some social conditioning. Before Tonberry I never knew anyone poly, so my frame of reference was limitted to say the least. I can't even say that it was meeting J, because I've known her for over a...

I think you misread a bit there, as Tonberry's husband thought at first he was mono-wired but has realised since that he would be happy either way (and I feel I can comment on what he thought in this case seeing as said husband is me :p). It did take some mental adjustment for me to understand...

I'm going to second Magdlyn on this one, you should see a doctor first to talk about the problem. There's also the distinct possibility that even if you do offer your husband the option you're still the only one he wants to be with. Up until I met someone myself fairly recently (and even then...

Okay, it's been confirmed, I was just being ridiculous. She forgot to write down my work number to call and say that she'd arrived safe and sound and didn't leave a message at home. So all my worries have been replaced feeling a bit stupid and jealousy that they got to eat Sri Lankan food and...

I'm feeling completely stupid and paranoid for worrying, but I am. Tonberry left Saturday evening to go see her boyfriend for the first time. She checked in to say she arrived at her first transfer on the way, and since then, over a day later, I haven't had any contact. I'm having to wonder...

... I'll neither confirm nor deny this theory...

There's also that, too.

Don't worry, I don't plan to hit on her unless she makes the first move. Thanks! We're both happy to be part of the community, living in a small conservative town we can't exactly be open, so it's nice to have a little corner of the web where we can be completely open about our relationships.

And it's nice to see I didn't totally confuse everyone with the details. :p