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Thanks laerhk, Yeah I suppose just being honest is always the best approach. For now I'll tell G that I want to hangout but can't do it too often since I'm a bit busy for a few months. I won't see E for a while but when she get's back from her trip I'll try to hang out with her some more...

Hello all. It's time for my bi-annual post. I moved with my partner to a new city a few months ago and we've been going to meetups to meet other poly people. I met some great people both friends and possible romantic partners. The first person I was attracted to was E. Through the same group I...

Well my first poly relationship ended a week or so ago. I fell madly in love with a girl who already had a boyfriend. We spent a good 5 months together but the last month was pretty tough. The BF wasn't getting enough time with the gf and the girl was tired from having to spend so much time with...

Ouch. Let me clarify a bit. They both know each other well enough that they can easily pick resolutions that fit the other person. For example, Tess hasn't had much reading-for-pleasure time. One of the suggestions was to at least once a week have a block of 3 hours to dedicate to reading. It is...

Hello there, I was just thinking about how there are some things that make me feel really jealous and somethings that couldn't bother me less. My partner of course has a different list and I find it humorous how different our views are. For example: My gf and her other bf were worrying about...

So my gf and her bf (the other side of the vee) decided that they would write each other's new year's resolutions. They are also the ones to be held accountable to should the other person not work on their resolutions. They have been dating longer, they live together, and they are more intimate...

Yup yup. Thanks for the correction. Absolutely. I want both of them to be happy so I'm trying to chat with him more than I normally do and since we work in the same industry I give him leads for new biz. I'll keep supporting her because I know how much he means to her. If it takes him a few...

Hello there, I've been in a triad for the last couple of months and it has been great. Recently though, my metamour is having some problems with depression due in part to his unsuccessful professional ventures and some other things. Generally he is unsatisfied by where he is in life and he has...

Excellent point. In this case we would have to pretend when out with my extended family. My sister (the only one that would be staying with us) already knows. But that doesn't nearly cover your point. I can see it being a little miserable when Tess and I get to be all happy and relationshippy...

That is an excellent idea. I don't think I'm ready to come out to my extended family so I would have to make sure that both of them are ok pretending in front of my family. If they are ok with it that is an excellent solution!

I'm in my first poly relationship and it is still very new, only a couple of months, and I was just curious what everyone's take is on sharing the holidays. Right now my triad is planning on me spending both major holidays (Thanksgiving and Christmas) with my family and my partner and her...

Thanks for that. I'm still trying to figure out why she feels the way she feels about casual sex. As of right now I want to tell her how I feel about things (feeling intimidated, frequency of time, casual sex) and let things unfold. I don't think I'll be making any demands. Thanks for some...

Excellent idea! And interesting timing. My gf just suggested that we have a virtual lunch tomorrow. It sounds like a great idea. Thanks.

This is true. I would appreciate one or two changes. But I can't decide how hard to push. Do I push her to the point where if she doesn't agree it is worth breaking up? I like the compromise idea mentioned earlier. I can wait X months. see how things go, and after that, have another discussion...

I'm a 24 year old bisexual male. I haven't ever been with a guy, but I would like to try. My gf is bi. Her partner is straight as an arrow. I don't see what you're getting at here. Can you word it differently? I do think that on occasion it is hard for them to see my viewpoint because I hate...

I think her problem with it is that it is often messy. Both of our last encounters ended with hurt feelings. But I see what you're saying, that she could also cause hurt in others, so why should she feel free to engage in casual sex and I shouldn't? I don't have the answer to that. Maybe she...

I totally agree. We actually happened to talk a little bit last night, and we discussed casual sex a little bit. In her mind, it is too easy to hurt people with casual sex. All too often, one person ends up liking the other person and then there are hurt feelings. I can't say I disagree with...

I'm very happy so far. :) Well, to be honest, I don't quite understand her exact feelings on casual sex. I shouldn't say that they are against it, because they occasionally have threesomes and what not, but it is rare. I think both of them were involved in the threesomes. Of course, I talked...

I've been interested in poly for 8 years and I finally found someone who is actually poly. On top of that, she is super big into nerdy/dorky stuff, which I love. Bla bla bla... Long story short, we are currently dating. :) I don't have any pressing issues. I just wanted to know if you guys had...

*Sigh* I think I already knew the answer I just needed someone else to say it. The right course of action is being fully honest and upfront about the issues with both ladies. I will probably see M this weekend so I hope to have a (positive) update. This is my current belief. I think that...