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When to declare your "poly" status or any other personal info always seems like a play it by ear sort of thing for me. I usually tell people I'm poly pretty quick, and a lot of times it's not even because I'm interested in the person (romantically) I'm having the convo with. It's because it's...

heehee it's nice to hear some positive blissed out people. I've had and been reading about rough waters a lot lately. So good to remember the blessings that we enjoy as well!

Welcome goldcactus! I don't know the first thing about kids so I'm just saying "hi" :)

Sounds like you've got it made. I would definitely talk to Elika and let her know she's not the only one who would like to have more than one lover. I would also keep flirting with Jade and see what happens? It seems to me the most natural thing in the world for two people who are close to...

ah, NightDragon. I am sorry to hear you are so distraught. First I would like to say, though I don't know if you will be able to hear it from where you are: This too, shall pass. In times of adversity and pain we forget that life is essentially good. If nothing else, remember to be grateful...

lol indeed... and here I was gettin' my dander up!

umm... are you referring to me? I noticed that you made two references to how much you hate spammers and would like to meet them in person (the subtext I assume is a threat of physical violence to said "spammers"). I'm not sure if I'm unknowingly breaching some etiquette or if these posts...

This reminds me of a dynamic I've recognized with "one night stand" type situations. Where you've gotten as close to someone as you can physically get (sexual intercourse) but not nearly as close in other ways ("What was your last name again?). This moment you "burst open w/ each other" and...

you.

Okay, I've one that was not in the list: "Unicorn" I'm sure it's something clever like an imaginary relationship ideal but I'm not certain so would like to be clear.

I have to admit I cheated a bit, using someone's earlier post. :P

I might be running away with this thread here due to what has happened to me today, but Jools' mention of "new energy" hits home. My g/f of the last year broke up with me for the umpteenth (and possibly final?) time a few weeks ago due to issues w/ me dating other women (for full details...

People sometimes ask me if I'm ever going to get married. "A girl would have to be crazy to want to marry me" I tell them, "and I'm not gonna marry some crazy girl." I must have looked up the word "commit" in the dictionary a half a dozen times if I've done it once. I keep thinking somehow...

I love Heinlein, and I'm pretty sure his books had some influence on me and my own ideas about love and what is possible. I have used Stranger In a Strange Land examples not a few times when trying to explain poly to people. That and my food analogies.

This is a very difficult thing to deal with. I have a relatively liberal family (mostly here in Califonia, you know, all us hippies :P) and I am pretty open about my lifestyle with those who accept it, but some others, like my step mom, it is better to not try and push the issue because it...

Shucks... I got a smile on my face a mile wide from this compliment. Thanks!! :D And Midnightsun, I don't think it's shallow at all to not be attracted physically to someone and then not want to get physically intimate with them. If they are intellectually stimulating and physically...

*sigh* :( Let's be respectful and loving!

I actually don't get monos. I know there are mono peeps out there and it seems they are "hard-wired" or ingrained with the mono culture but I still just feel like... I've always felt that humans share some basic experiences and I think of love as one of them. When I'm happy and full of love, I...

I'm not telling you to break up w/ your husband at all, but I wanted to share something my dad said to me many years ago: There are three basic things that two people can do in a relationship. 1. They can remain static, the way they were when they started the relationship. 2. They can grow...

I once thought I wanted everything, but then I realized... where would I put it? :P