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Would it still be a V if say I were involved with a woman who had a b/f and the b/f and I became close? Not close enough to have sex, or let's just say I'm 99% hetero so I wouldn't want to have sex pretty much no matter what, but in all other things I was close to this guy, enough to tell him I...

It's nice to have some well spoken representatives bringing poly into the light. I like how she points out that it's NOT an anomaly to need more than one person... the HONESTY is what is rare about polyamory.

My thoughts on reading this were that Lissy "needs" to learn to control her language. I'm guessing she didn't really mean those things she said, i.e. she hate you, she doesn't love you, you should go fuck off, &c. So the question is: What did she really mean? What is the true feeling and...

It occurs to me that you are worrying about something that might not even happen. I don't know if you are "back together" in your relationship but you talked about much you love both tommyc and Sea and how the relationship as the (V? triad?) is what you want. You are feeling guilty and scared...

I concur with many of the ideas raised. Greenthal makes an excellent point: youth is a time of experimentation, trying on different personas, styles, philosophies. I had a friend who told me she was poly who is now monogamously married and living in Japan. I was much like happiestmanalive...

kk I'm going to have to keep that one bookmarkled.

I just lived this, and am still living it. For the full story (in progress) check out my tale in General Discussions. My conclusive decision is there are no bad decisions. Indeed, if I had just said, "Okay, you're mono. I'm poly. Let's not get into this. It sounds like trouble," then I would...

thanks for the tip, I'll try to put it into practice :)

a different sort of selfish, the point being the same though. A person does things for others not really for others, but for ones' self. I'm not judging this and saying it's "bad", just that we should be aware that our motivations aren't always so pure and noble.

Well I wouldn't want it said I left a lady unsatisfied ;) So here's some more of the current story. I continued to live with Nyx, but was looking for a place. Well, I was sort of looking for a place but being kind of picky, not just moving in anywhere. I liked living with her but I felt like...

I think I was on this forum a long time ago, but can't remember my old log on info so created a new profile/handle. I am 32/m/CA. I think I started being taught to be monogamous, so I was trying. But finally I had an "epiphany" moment and have been continuing to follow my heart ever since...

My ideal relationship would be more aptly described as a series of interconnectivities between individuals, of which I would be one. In this relationship would be everyone that I love to some extent, and for each of these people from their own perception is everyone they love. I envision it...

new relationship energy? just a guess :) On that premise I would say it is natural, and yes maybe some jealousy. Not the kind so much that you are jealous and want what someone else has but it perhaps brings you a nostalgia for your own NRE when it was happening? Out of crisis comes...

sorry for my ignorance, but what's "NRE"? Is there a page here or somewhere else with terminology? I can get some idea from context on some things but I'm a little fuzzy on the definitions for things like "V"s, "Triad", &c.

Cont..... I became a little despondent (homesick) while living in Tel Aviv, and flew home on a whim. I drove to visit Nyx almost immediately. Even now, I drive past the exit to her part of town and remember that day, the first day of seeing her in over a decade. I found her house and I would...

My "poly story" is that I was monogamous (hetero)for the majority of my life. I would meet a woman, we'd have a relationship, the relationship would end. I'd meet another woman and the cycle starts over. Sometimes there would be two or three women I'd meet around the same time and I'd make a...

oh it's not part of the game. It's online, so you're in a chat room basically with the game going on in a graphical user interface. You have an avatar/picture and you can click on other people to look at thier stats, add them as a poker buddy, buy them "gifts/drinks" which vary from exotic...

Cheers to boundless love!! and huzzah! :D I was incited a bit by your statement about your husband's preferences and your own more visceral nature. I think I have the ability for either/or but I've been critical of involving myself in "merely physical" attractions, seeking the "integrity" of...

yeah, not being happy with yourself is a tough one. And I don't think adding another person will help that any more than it would help if it were your relationship you were unhappy with. I speak from the other side, having had a couple g/fs who were not happy with themselvs. It is true that...

Ygirl - I think she was saying, "I'm not shallow, I'm not just about looks." You are in concurrence. As for midnight sun, I am jealous of your 90wpm because I too, am a rambler... but more of a 35wpm rambler so it takes me much longer to type my long winded, meandering, tangential posts...