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You should, it's a great show regardless of any of this. I am referring to the protagonist constantly having affairs, however. Note that I would want that aspect of it, though. I don't want to lie or to hurt my partner, but having a wife and a girlfriend is very appealing. One of the...

Ah, but now you're just talking about semantics. At least for this discussion. I guess for you it could be reworded to "What led you to choosing multiple, non-exclusive relationships?" I'm just trying to get more perspectives on things... Bassman Yes. America, at that, if it helps. :)

That you're polyamorous. :) Sorry, I'm in a weird mood... I normally write a little more clearly. Or at least I like to think so...

How and when did you know? I think I'm still working this out for myself. I posted last fall, wondering about how to convince my girlfriend or if I even should. I didn't know then. I'm mostly sure now. I seem to be using shorter sentences than usual tonight, for some reason. Aside from...

Read a couple more posts and was reminded of a couple more things: 1) Condoms are a problem for me, not because of the condom itself, but usually the interruption of trying to get it out of the package and put it on. 2) The first couple times I successfully had sex were first thing in the...

TL;DR version I've gone through this too, and here is my advice: 1) You need to relax and get out of your head. 2) Don't let yourself worry that it will happen; worrying is what makes it happen. 3) You need more time with these new women to trust them, and feel comfortable with them. 4) A scrip...

I don't know, I see what he's saying... but betting the "bad rap" comes a lot more from social norms/belief systems and peoples' lack of willingness to move against them. Really, it seems like the people I know who are against poly haven't even really seen other poly relationships. Maybe.

When you say he gets no bites, is his profile not getting viewed? Is he not getting messages? Or is he messaging women and not getting replies? For the record, I've only had two women ever message me on OKC, and a good 99% of the ones I've messaged never replied. That was long before I'd ever...

Understandable, I can be long winded sometimes. ;) We're reading Polyamory in the 21st Century... so hopefully that's a good one. I wanted something relatively fact based so I (we) could really evaluate pros and cons and such.

Umm... I haven't. That's what I'm trying to do...

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for taking the time to read and give advice. Right now we're still together, she's agreed to read the book but she's clearly not happy about it. We'll see I guess. Hope for the best, expect the worst... right?

That's what I keep saying, but she says that it's normal for a couple to have problems when they first move in together. I think that's true, but weekly fighting (or even week-long fights) seems like more than normal adjustment problems. Especially when it lasts for 3 months... I agree. But...

Yes, we do. @Rory: We started seeing a therapist to try and work out our issues... but yes, that's a big worry for me too. One of the reasons I hadn't brought up poly even before now is that I was worried things just weren't working. In some ways things seem to be getting better, but it's...

So... new development. She asked me point blank tonight if I wanted to see other people. I tried to ignore the question, then dodge it by saying "not right now" meaning that I was thinking through it for possible future discussion... but she pressed forward with it. (I really need to stop...

I'm not, no. :P She's a few years older than me though. The biological clock is ticking pretty loudly for her... she's convinced she has to start within a year or miss her chance. As a general rule I don't think she's manipulative. If anything I think it's hard for us both to separate...

I thought it was maybe slang for something... heh. There's nothing wrong with honesty. I'm really trying to figure out the best way to present the idea. Like I said, I mentioned once shortly before we moved in that I worried about missing out on other women... though I guess I've avoided...

I may have given the wrong impression. Things aren't great now, but they were really good before we moved in together. She's also had a rough couple years, and by her estimation isn't quite acting herself yet... so I'm not sure we'd be miserable together. I'm just not happy now and need time...

So I broke up with my g/f last Friday. Then we broke up again last night. Then we had great sex. The problem: She wants to start trying for kids in less than a year. She's my first real girlfriend and second women I've slept with (I'm 34,) and since we moved in together things haven't...