Search results

I'm reading this thread with great interest. So far, from your descriptions, this guy you're with has my respect, but not the slightest bit of my trust. He seems to know how to get exactly what he wants from you when he wants it. He doesn't seem to know how to give you exactly what you need...

People default to monogamy, to the religion they were raised with, to the eating habits of their friends, to the political opinions of the media... It's a lot of work to figure things out for yourself, and most people don't see the value in it. Then when one of their natural urges comes along...

Thank you! You just reminded me of something I heard about and have tried to develop but eventually forgot about... Lucid Dreaming. Lucid dreaming is basically being awake in your dream, being aware that it is just a dream, and being in control of your avatar in your dream. There's a lot of...

There have been a couple times I've found myself excitedly getting into bed with a gorgeous woman... and suddenly being turned off by a certain lack of emotion on her part. In one case, I didn't know what it was, and she took it personally and started crying, which somehow put me back in the...

I guess there are two main methods by which I learn about myself and everything else. One is direct. If I have a problem I want to solve, I google it, and find a number of different solutions, and pick the one that makes the most sense for me. The other is indirect. I do a lot of reading of...

Absolutely. I'll take a look through the archives. Oh, and on the topic of wiring, I'd tend to side with GS. I think monogamy is a choice... but I'm curious to see what Mono has to say about it.

That's funny, I was just reading Porcupine's post and thinking, "This guy needs to talk to Vexxed!"

Mono, you're an enigma to me. I can't imagine myself being as intimately/romantically/sexually committed to one woman as you seem to be to Redpepper, no matter how amazing she was. I respect it though, and happily give you the benefit of the doubt... But humor me: If you were stranded on a...

Hmm... Maybe, but I still like 'em taut. ;) Vexxed, I don't know if there's much else to say. You mentioned that anxiety is the problem. You feel anxious when they go out together, I assume because they are having a good time, and you don't want her to have a better time with Baron than she...

Hey Vexxed. I have a few things I'd like to point to. Let me know what you think. Face-to-face conversation is 55% body language, 38% tone of voice and only 7% words. Being articulate probably isn't what's making her giddy. Hmmm... Well. This explains why you think being articulate can help...

I agree with sunnydee. I'm know waiting is a bitch sometimes. Hang in there!

I like this term, it's very clean and positive. But there's still a problem, and I'm not sure if any term we could come up with would combat it: A while back I read an article about breast-feeding literature, and the fact that even though breastfeeding was shown to have a lot of benefits over...

I remember back in the days when I was more conservative, feeling uncomfortable with any word that had "sex" in it. I felt dirty just saying it. (SO not a problem anymore!! ;) ) So I can see how this makes a big difference. When the term homosexual was new to me I would end up with a (at the...

Just wanted to say thank you so much for sharing your experiences, I'm very new to the forum and finding out just how new I really am to polyamory as well. Just soaking up more great info than I ever expected to find! Your story has shone a light on some of my mistakes in the past, and how I...

Well my first thought is that you are still in the New Relationship Energy (NRE) stage, (infatuation) and it's hard to tell what you actually want long term versus what your hormones are telling you. Are she and her husband trying to fix the marriage? If so, I would suggest breaking...

Ancient History Hi all, I'm 30, mostly straight, living in Winnipeg, Canada. I was raised in a deeply Christian home and tried my best to live as an obedient child of God. When I was 22, I got married to a girl who was funny, very intelligent, and really 'got me' in a way that others didn't...

;)

I'm not sure I understand intimacy. For me, I think I could tell anyone anything, and if they reacted negatively to it, I would take that as a deficiency on their part rather than mine. Obviously I keep some secrets for convenience sake, (Didn't tell the boys I worked with in the oilfield...

I think there are a few reasons they try to control their children's lives. One is fear, that their children aren't making choices that will benefit them. (That's my parents. They think I'm going to hell.) Another is to justify their own decisions, a la Rachel McAdams' character's mom in The...

a couple things to say in GS's favor... There is a principle, called harm reduction often used in treating drug addiction and other high risk behaviours, which basically accepts the reality that people are going to do bad things in dangerous ways if we don't give them a safe way to do them...