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Of course it ate my post so I guess I'll make this one shorter! 5 years huh? I come and visit, but I think I got burnt out on the new poly posts after so long. Adam and I got divorced a couple of years ago. After we broke up he admitted he was a compulsive liar which explained a lot but I've...

I haven't been here in a while, but thought I'd check out the blogs of the people I see post on FB. I know its hard to not do your A best in classes, but lady, I have to say, I admire you SO much. I'm in a somewhat similar place to you relationally, and I don't have kids, and if I could pull...

I always hear people suggest this book http://www.amazon.com/Power-Circuits-Polyamory-Dynamic/dp/0982879415 I'd suggest going over one of these checklists with him. I found it useful to have one partner also fill out one that gauges his interest in the activities too, so we can see what would...

Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I'm so sorry they aren't keeping up their ends of the bargain. I'm hoping some unexpected help comes from some direction so you can keep working on your credits. *support*

*hug* Sending supportive thoughts up your way.

I dont have a long term picture yet... After starting poly, my husband and I broke up a year later (due to non poly issues), though we are still good friends, and I get to go drink vodka with his fiance and house sit his home on a local island in a couple weeks with one of my anchor partners :D...

Yep, OKCupid. The only partner I have that I didn't meet on there, I met through another person I met on OKC. Stat wise, in 10 years I met 11 people in person from there 1 marriage - been together 10 years 1 3 year relationship (recently ended) 1 18 month current relationship 1 3 dates with...

I have avoided this thread cause of many reasons and hopefully you have made a decision.. but if not, once you get down to the detailed "i said this at X time, and 12 minutes later he said this, and I responded Y and then didn't hear from him for Y time... unless its a one off or the partner...

It's possible somebody already said something about this, but somehow there are lots of comments in the last day I don't have time to read at the moment. Are you doing/sharing google calendars? When one of my partners schedules stuff, although I've asked him to let me know, he is pretty...

Does that partner really want to go with you, or are they indifferent and just find it easier to go with their other partner? I have to assume his other partner really likes the artist too since they keep going to see her. I have a band I've seen with one partner year after year, and while I'd...

All good advice. If this time doesn't start now I would agree to not date any NEW people during that time, but I would not stop seeing people I was already seeing, though I would agree to manage my dating schedule so that I had set dates and my availability to him was constant and known. I...

I am doing not awesome today. I broke up with a partner of three years purely because of being saturated. I started dating another person 5 months ago who has a lot more in common with me as a friend and a similar communication style and was just feeling too spread thin trying to make time for...

I do find it an interesting topic too - I didn't really have an idea about what would polysaturate me before I found myself in a situation where it was an issue. It's also a topic of discussion because one of my partners said he thought his polysaturation rate was 2.5, two deep emotional and...

It's not ridiculous at all to set up a sleeping schedule or dating schedule so you can each have your alone time with a shared partner.

Just to check, when I read that he's moving closer to a sexual relationship with her, does that mean they aren't having sex yet? I'm going to give you some advice you don't want to hear. 8 years ago, I was you. For me, it may be getting slightly better now after my husband being in counseling...

Similar reasons to the reason you choose to "hide" behind a user name instead of using your legal name in the forum? Cause you don't think that's any of our business? Ok, that was snarky but true - My husband and I are out, but some years back I would not have been out at all - I was starting...

Gah, sorry to hear that. Some of it sounds similar to some past experiences I've had - it's so odd how you can try so hard to express your needs and wants to somebody for a long time and have them not hear it for months. I hope he is in a place to really recognize what his choices really mean...

I don't generally share details, and don't ask for them - if a partner shares details that seem private, I'll usually ask if it's OK with their other partner to have that information shared with me. If any intimacy related details are being shared, it tends to be factual stuff about bdsm, and...

I don't get tempted, and think it's interesting that people do (not judging, just forget sometimes people experience so many different experiences). My dad cheated on my mom constantly, and my ex husband cheated on me, I'd never wish that on anybody, and I dont think my nether regions could get...