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I'm still enjoying following your tumblr. It is interesting (and makes sense) that if you hadn't posted on here, I would've thought things were sexual and easygoing again for you and Gia. I will keep my fingers crossed for you, and glad you have been having positive interactions. Also, if you...

Yes, that's true, but I was getting wordy and using it in a nice loose way, as in this case, the gf and ex had one, and I've seen people have DADT that range from no mention of other partners at all, and lying about where you are going to be that night, to minimalizing mention of, and avoiding...

In some cases that makes sense to me (casual friends or relationships, long-distance relationships, and that does include if the OP considers their relationship such), but I find it much more dysfunctional feeling to be in a relationship that I want to last far into the future, and have a...

I just know that in that particular situation, I would more or less insist on meeting the ex (if there is any chance of my gf rekindling their relationship), just a coffee or a passing "hi." That would likely be good (or at least, telling) for each of you. And as this isn't a new relationship...

I've gone into dating with no expectations, and so far (starting as a newly non-monogamous married person) out of the maybe fifteen or so in a decade first meetings/coffee dates with people, found 1 husband and two long term partners. One of the two long term partnerships, from early on, gave...

Only if you are a guy who asking a woman to do this and doing so because you think they owe you monogamy or don't deserve the same joy and freedom you do. I agree with what LovingRadiance said - and your response about how one party wants to stay home and raise kids while the other works is not...

I did vote, although out of my three partners, only my husband is currently operating under the primary/secondary models, as far as I understand, both my other partners just consider people "partners" Are you kept completely isolated, and a secret from, from their friends, family, neighbors...

So far, I've had 4 important relationships while being poly - my ex-husband, my current husband Adam, and my partners Brian and Greg. I got divorced from my ex, and stayed with Adam a couple months while I waited for my mother to move from her place so I could move in there. This happened at...

I do have a spouse. I also have one partner where we are slowly creeping up on the three year mark, sometimes I think at some point in the future, this relationship may have to end even though it's a very happy relationship and our time together is certainly enjoyable. I also have one partner...

Could you perhaps not understand what we are hearing when you say you want your wife to be open to a triad? People here are answering as if it means what most everybody on this forum thinks it means - you date the guy, and your wife has to date the same guy. If she doesnt want to date, she...

That's about the viewpoint I'd take on it. Maybe it has a side effect of being therapeutic, maybe it helps you to let your guard down and to practice being vulnerable if you're scared of being close to people due to past baggage, maybe it helps make you feel connected and bonded to a partner...

I'm like LR too - Although I tell one partner 100% of that because we live together and see each other so much, another partner I'd tell 97% of that because we don't see each other every day so I can see a couple of conversations happening with a new person before we speak about it (so they may...

I'd actually just suggest at least a few sessions of couples therapy, where you can determine if the two of you want to still be in a relationship, whether it's the form it is now, or maybe you two would choose to step back from a marriage sort of dynamic, date each other, but also date others...

I know there have been a few posts on here, not too far in the past, about HSV2. I know it's harder for a woman to give it to a man. There still seems to a a chance that having one strain helps protect you somewhat from getting the other. I have one partner who tested "indeterminate" with two...

I'd second RainyGrlJenny - my husband has been to a couple of the meetups through there (there are other meetups, a new one in North Seattle I think, some people living in the South end do some stuff too), and we went to one potluck at the CSPC. Not sure if you're an introvert or extrovert - I...

*hug* That really sucks. I'd just remember that its been long enough that I'd have trouble blaming any of this on NRE, and try to see Airyn as showing who he really is. I don't envy you the decisions you're faced with, but I hope you are able to make choices that are the best for you (with...

It's been quite a month. I've learned some things about myself - mainly that I can't compartmentalize, and if one partner is really stressed it affects me too & it will spill over to make me anxious and tense during what would normally be positive time with other partners. I really didn't know...

I think divorce happens as much in the poly community as much as it does anywhere else. While being poly I've divorced and remarried, and two of my partners have separated/divorced from their partners. None of those were to leave one person for another but for the other reasons typical for...

I personally operate on the system "I say what I want, you say what you want, then we negotiate if needed". Whether the outcome of any negotiation means we decide to not do something, or find a middle ground, or to accept that the other person is going to do something we aren't comfortable with...

I am, though to be truthful when I was in a professional position in a smaller town, I was not comfortable with the idea of being out. My family knows (was somewhat easy because of swinging experience/chronic cheatiness - wasn't too worried about judgement). My husband was always out (20+...