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Great elaboration on the subject, more topic fodder for me to chew on, thank you!

I think it's awesome that you keep rolling with things, and fight down disappointment and focus on the good stuff. My primary love language is touch, and my husbands is anything but, so I think reading this latest post about Gia helps remind me that it's OK, if not ideal, to not be able to...

Thanks Cleo, I've been glad that you seem to be coming out of some transitions yourself, I'm trying to take lessons from you and a couple other people on the forum :) Now that I've admitted the less then awesome stuff going on, I can make a more positive follow up post. About a month ago, Greg...

I knew that the Happy-ish Stable-ish, Uneventful Poly was going to come to an end at some point, although I didn't expect it to be in the way it did. I figure I'll make this post so I can feel honest with a follow up post about the good things going on. It's been a stressful month for me, all...

Something you said earlier reminded me of this poem by Richard Brautigan. I empathize with what you are going through, and having a bit of a stressful time myself, so I've been keeping this in mind. Karma Repair Kit: Items 1-4 1. Get enough food to eat, and eat it. 2. Find a place to sleep...

I've been wondering about you too. I'm glad you will be having some space for your hobbies to be done, I know for me, that's what I prefer spending my time doing when my husband's on dates, its a great way to pass the time in a positive way. I hope things keep getting better between you and...

I'd just point out that his actions (omitting details, not being upfront) are what somebody does when they ARE cheating, so of course that will contribute to his feelings of guilt if he is acting that way. It sounds great that you and she get along well. That should help with you both wanting...

LOL! Happy Birthday. I hope it was a wonderful day, where you had an awesome time, since you are a generous enough friend to send penis cream around!

Why don't you ask everybody some questions, first - yourself What do I want to be able to do to express affection to each of them? Maybe I'd ask "primary" next since it seems to be them you are worried about. Hey I wanted to ask you about PDA, this is what I'd like to be able to do, are you...

My library has the Dewey book, I will check it out, I'm curious!

Have you had your partner and a close friend or two read and critique your OKC profile? You may not be sending the message you want to be sending, or leaving out important information. Are you messaging people too, or just hoping they will write to you?

Well it is pretty giggle worthy :p

I'd been intending to spend a night somewhere nice with my husband to celebrate his new job. My boyfriend Greg wanted to meet my ex-husband who's a bit off the beaten track here, and I found a cute local-ish rental with an awesome 3 night special which Adam talked me into booking, to kill two...

Wow and I thought some of the messages I'd gotten where the only purpose seemed to be to tell me me what I was doing was wrong/horrible were bad.

Happy Birthday! I can't see any reason he would not be OK with your request, I will chime in though since even though he texted you and you feel like it will be OK, I have a feeling you might find an excuse to panic about it again ;) My newer partner who got very serious very quickly, also...

I'll be succinct here (by my standards at least) - its up to you and your partner to do the legwork here. read http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1096 for a lot of web links. Buy Opening Up and read it with your partner, discuss. If there are still things not settled by that, read...

And that's why I'd date separately, so he can figure out what he wants on his own without a convoluted, "Shit, now we all like each other, but one of us isn't into it the same way. So do we all break up?" issue. I only say that since you say what do "we" say to prospects? If you just support...

So..you're not overreacting. Safe sex boundaries might be the #1 most important thing there is - having different tolerances is totally fine, but not being honest that yours are different than a partners is not fine. If we can't choose our own risk levels, then its pretty much impossible to...

Ahh stressful. I don't see that you did anything wrong, nobody did, I imagine R didn't know what she'd be feeling until she was already in the middle of it, and an hour is a short enough time that it hopefully would've gone smoothly for all involved even if she had a few moments of angst. I...

I'd say you guys aren't really happy. You sure aren't. Not a single thing you wrote sounds like you are enjoying any aspect of the non-monogamy you currently have going on. FYI, not too many people would say that you are polyamorous, as polyamory tends to mean you are at least open to having...