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Well uh... you can pretend she's a relative, one you tolerate more from because of family ties. Or you can choose to just not spend more time with her, even if it means you see him less. Is them them moving in together in some situation that means seeing him there involves her being around all...

http://openingup.net/open-list/ http://www.lovemore.com/blog/?page_id=1585 https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals-directory/index.php?option=com_sobi2&catid=14 There are also some good threads about the subject here. I know NYCindie has posted a more comprehensive list in a...

Individual and couples counseling is about the only advice I have that doesn't involve just breaking up. He obviously has a lot of issues going on that he isn't dealing with in a healthy way, and I find it unlikely he's going to calm down and figure out what is actually bothering him without...

I don't think anybody was irritated at all, just stating the obvious. It's not a good idea to keep hanging around with somebody who treated you like that, and we are confirming what your other friends and family said, that from here it doesn't look like a sensible move. The feelings you had for...

Your communication style sounds almost exactly like mine. My husband doesn't tend to talk about things unless they are a problem, so sometimes I am surprised when something comes up out of the blue, my boyfriend however, sounds a lot like your gf, the difference being we've never had a fight...

If saying no would cause problems, then...I'd say no, because it is what you'd like to say. If you always have it looming over your head that refusing something is going to be an issue, maybe getting it over with would be good. I don't know if you mean problems with P, or problems with B, but...

I'm pissed off. There's a squirrel in my fucking attic, and some days he sits right above the ceiling over my head and makes squirrely noises. On the other hand I'm really happy, I have two totally different partners who are confused by totally different aspects of me, but love me anyway...

(I don't think you can do anything about typos, etc., after 12 hours.) My advice is to keep going slow. You can reassure him of his importance by being a good partner, listening to what he says, keeping your agreements, and showing you are trustworthy. Always treat partners as well as you did...

I wonder about that subject sometimes, I imagine that takes a hell of a lot of willpower to try, along with very hard mental work to accept whatever the outcome is. I wish everything was easy answers though! Hopefully you can keep your mind focused on the positives regardless of what choices...

Sometimes (especially on the Fetlife poly forums) I see a lot of pressure for people to embrace total autonomy, and suggestions that you're "less than" if you make requests of or agreements with your partners that stifles 100% freedom. The theory being if you just trust that your partner wont...

I don't understand. If something is a dealbreaker, it means if the other person does it, you don't date them anymore. Period. End of sexual relationship. It means you can't be involved with them anymore for your own sanity. Usually in this case most people wouldn't even want to be friends with...

I'd just keep reminding myself it doesn't do any good to suffer consequences before something has happened. What if 20 years from now you wake up and you are still together and you realize you made yourself miserable for no good reason on a regular basis? If it ends, it ends, and things...

I'd try not to fall in the trap of thinking, "We live close now, so we can spend every single day together. I would be intentional about any change in increasing time, and make sure everybody was on the same page. And if you start spending more time together, have a check-in a month or two in...

Much like in real life...almost all of my time was spent at home avoiding other people and trying to get my husband in bed to woohoo me with less frequent success than I'd like :rolleyes:

HAH! I played it briefly about a decade ago and yes, I remember the arguments and fights when I tried to flirt a girl after already being involved with a guy :( My husband just got me a copy of Sims 3 that I tried out, but I assumed it was the same. On the other hand...my sims had a cat, and...

It sounds to me like your DH's head is on straight. He likes her, he enjoys sex with her and her company but doesn't have any romantic interest in her. It seems odd that you think there is some reason that he should fall for her just because of this. From what you say, it sounds like he is...

Well as I said, I think there is a difference between a clearly stated agreement or an assumed agreement. In neither case though, would I accept anything being "forced" onto me, and I don't see why anybody would. That's not very loving. Why would people choose to stay in a relationship where...

I like to know if my partners have moved/want to move a relationship from non sexual to sexual. Then it's not some surprise it happened when they have to tell you a condom broke or some person down the line got an STI that we should both be tested for. And then I feel like they are my...

I actually don't see that as the case often, except in circumstances where when people meet, they are dating multiple people, and as things get serious they address the question about if they should "become exclusive". I know it didn't come up when I got married the first time, we just...

Maybe just tell your boyfriend how you feel, and go back to doing that respectful negotiation you were doing to get to where you are at now. Tell him all the stuff you said about feeling creepy when some stranger tries to hit on you. Tell him that you feel safer and more comfortable if you know...