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Dust and Fish, how are you guys? Any progress to report?

I was elated that there is someone that mirrors my actions. :cool: Who loves you, baby? I must admit I had to compose myself first! *laughs nervously* We are more alike than you think. I will respond to this later. ;)

I didn't rape him. You are using really preposterous analogies. Nice try, though. My H can be assertive and tell me he does not want to make love, but he is completely powerless when it comes to asking me not to spoon him and cup his testicles? He can tell me, "No babe, I don't want a...

You can do it use Fish and Dust as a model. :D

emotional abuse Maybe you are not saying I have raped my husband. But please clarify that I have not raped him, when you make those types of statements. I have gone to great lengths to wait about even asking for sex, because, after all, who wants to be turned down? When we sleep I am usually...

At first I just lost sex, but over the years I lost some intimacy. If it is anything that is done in the bedroom, I'm sorry to say, I've lost it. Hot tub, massage, touch, kissing, fellatio, sex. I used to get naked and wait till he was asleep so I could snuggle. I purchased a fucking machine...

Thank you, Marathoner. He is going through a rough patch right now, so I feel the need to hide sex with MM during the day. We talked about therapy, and how I didn't make this choice until I left no stone unturned. He agreed, but really said nothing of substance. He is clamming up. He wanted...

((Hugs and a huge smile))

Thanks for your support. You are an awesome blossom!! <3

Roller Coaster It is a roller coaster ride... I don't know what is ahead... a ride I will never forget ... a ride where your guts wind up in your throat at times... a ride when I think am I ever going to stop sinking... sometimes arms waving in the air with new joy... I grit my teeth and hold...

If a minister hadn't sold me on the idea of poly, I would be stuck in a marriage without sex. My husband may leave me, but I for sure left no stone unturned. I can say I did everything possible to save the marriage, and will do more.

Well said, NYCindie. It was good information for me, too. TY

STD Paperwork I found several ppl that had herpes just by requiring STD paperwork. When I pushed for their paperwork they confessed to having herpes. One seemed responsible the other not so much. I learned a lot very quick. No one really asks they just trust. I never really had a problem...

Tonight order your favorite take out and make sure you have a comedy or the like on DVD. What can you do that is luxury? Maybe sleep with a silicone toy. Is it distasteful to say have fun with yourself? It can be masturbation night.:o

I hope he gets into the planning phase. He needs something to look forward to. Something that gives his mind a little peace. He may be going in that direction sooner or later. If not in real life maybe in his mind. Visualization helped me bring my goal to life. What is going to move him toward...

switch focus I am just throwing it out there. I guess I am asking the group-- would it help him to "Fuck the pain away," like the song? Could another lover help him to cope? What is gonna help you put your brain on the shelf? Maybe some sort of switch of focus. What if your focus became how...

Thank you for the help, Kevin. Wow, I have a lot to cover. I can do it all in time. He refused counseling, but agreed to triangulation, where she asked me questions to ask him, then report back with his body language and answers.

Marathoner, we are on the same page. Marathoner thanks for all your wisdom. He only peck-kisses now. I will try anything once I break through. The combination with reassurance is a rockin' idea. - In the morning he finds me and gives me a hug and kiss good-bye. - He comes in, I give him a...

Wow, Dusty, I have a lot to learn from you. Dust, you are way ahead of me. I have not gotten past the first chapters of Love in Abundance-- Defining the relationship together and setting boundaries. He did not want to read it. I defined it and told him he was my number one. He is not the...

Thank you for making me think... Yes to both. I don't want to hurt him on purpose. My fantasy is for him to give me permission and cheer me on. I love him very much. Yes, I feel more alive. Quite frankly, at the time, I just wished I was gone. I thought it would be great if I could just...