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I'm sorry to hear it. I won't go into the whole story here but you can easily find it by searching my posts; just over two months ago, I experienced a drawn-out and traumatic end to a two-year relationship. It's been devastating. Time really does seem to be the only thing that helps much - I'm...

Many thanks to everyone who has replied. I am feeling a little better, but still devastated. It's been...well...years since we've gone this long without even speaking. I miss him dreadfully; I miss his scent and laugh and touch and silly calls to talk about any- and everything. I miss being what...

Looking back, no. That was my husband who broke a boundary. Then my partner did, twice in the space of a few months, and violated my consent by having unprotected sexual contact with someone who has an STI and then having sex with me without informing me of this. It is very upsetting to me...

I just keep wondering if I was overreacting to the whole HSV thing, but the fact that he broke boundaries and violated my consent is a huge red flag. As is the fact that while things were going badly with us, he pushed me aside to concentrate on someone new and was not conscious of health and...

Two years of loving and trusting someone and this is how it ends...I'm shattered. I don't even know what to do with myself. I am utterly miserable. I feel like I never want to do this again. I feel abandoned and expendable. Every time I am unoccupied for more than a few minutes, I start crying...

He also said that I "made him choose" between me and the person with an STI with whom he was intimate and then violated my consent, because I said that I did not want to take that risk. I didn't make him do anything, and I feel like he has been choosing her for months now. I feel like he's...

Had that call, as I was exhausted by waiting and sick of hoping. He's done. He's justifying everything. I don't even know who he is anymore. I hate myself for trusting him and being vulnerable to him; I hate myself even more for practically begging him to reconsider and work things out. I am...

We have talked a bit. He asked me if I would be attending the social event (I didn't and still don't know.) We are supposed to talk in person sometime next week. I am terrified of this; I feel like he is just waiting to break up with me in person. As difficult as this has been, I love him and...

Thank you again, Galagirl. One of the other hardest parts of this for me has been that the whole point of multiple relationships is that an existing relationship does not have to be shunted aside/abandoned for a new one, yet that feels like exactly what he's done. I am hurting so badly right...

Thank you again for your kind and thoughtful words. A few of my close friends have said "I think you know what you need to do" and what I've heard here seems to echo that. I am still afraid FOR him, too...the last time we talked, he seems to be justifying his possible involvement with this...

Thank you for your responses. I feel like I really need a more objective point of view; sometimes hearing this stuff from people who don't know you (or your partner) well can be helpful. Anneintherain, he did break a safer-sex agreement. This is not the first time he's done so, and not the...

Yet another negative, help-me post...but I really don't know what to do. My partner of nearly two years has shattered my trust more than once in the last few months. He has broken agreed-upon boundaries, said he learned from it, and then turned around and did it all again. I think he resents...

Scent is hugely important to me in physically intimate relationships. One of my current lovers is just delicious. I could lick and inhale him all day. It's funny-- I met someone not too long ago who I'd probably usually find attractive, but his scent was repellent to me. Not sweat or...

I don't have much advice, only sympathy. I generally cannot stand my husband's girlfriend, and they have broken boundaries over and over again. She communicates poorly, and is immature and petty much of the time. Right now in particular, she's making me crazy. Sigh. I hope that you're able to...

My husband and I have been together for about 10 years, married for 7, and have been non-monogamous in one way or another for most of that time. We were involved with another couple for several years, and had other (separate) partners as well. Currently, I am in another relationship that has...

Thanks for sharing this! I'm reading right now and will definitely be passing it along.

...and now my sister, who knows about my partner and has met him (and has always been generally accepting, if a bit puzzled by the whole thing) has decided to shame me about my relationship. She blew up at me when I told her I might be bringing my partner with me to our parents' house for...

Pretty much just nodding along in agreement with Anneintherain. My husband and I (and my partner and I) discuss safer sex practices and that sort of thing, but I don't want or need details of their sexual encounters.

Hmmm. I suppose it depends; my partner doesn't wash his hair/bathe every day, but I love his scent and don't mind that at all. There is a point, though, where it goes from OMG-pheromones-come-here to Hmmm...want to take a shower? Heh.

SchrodingersCat: very true. GalaGirl: thank you for your kind words. Unfortunately, I can't hand off the Thanksgiving stuff to anyone else, but I will have help from friends, which will be lovely. And a metamour has offered to do occasional babysitting - even a handful of overnights, so I can...