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opalescent, I imagine he probably doesn't feel as supported as he'd like right now, but that's less to do with him than I think I've been able to make him understand. And yes, it strikes me as a bit odd too, but there is a significant age difference at play here (10+ years) and I don't think...

nycindie, I have told my partner this. He tells me that he wants me to be happy about his other involvements (if/when they happen) and wants to be able to talk to me about them (to a point; I have also expressed that I don't need/want every single detail.) I feel like we're at a stalemate...

Sorry, I feel like I wasn't very clear in that last post. My husband doesn't tell me much about his girlfriend, beyond need-to-know stuff; he knows what I'm comfortable (or not) hearing/knowing. My (male) partner is the one who seems to want a different reaction from me when he's talking about...

Thanks for posting this; it's given me a lot to think about, and expressed some feelings I'd been having more clearly than I was able to, even to myself.

Thanks again for your thoughtful replies. I feel like I have a lot to think about and process. I've realized that part (though by no means all) of the problem is due to my insecurities as well as past hurts and distrust, and it's sort of been exacerbated by my husband's and his girlfriend's...

Derbylicious, that's a very good point, and helps me to feel somewhat less panicky about the whole thing. And we always use condoms anyway, so that's taken care of, at least. I really appreciate some perspective on this; thanks so much to everyone who has replied.

Thank you for your responses. My husband hasn't behaved this way with other people; he really does seem to have lost his mind when it comes to her. As for the not trusting: they broke one of mine and my husband's major agreements (no oral sex or intercourse until both parties have been tested)...

Just what it sounds like. In the past, I've had my own insecurities about people my husband has dated, but I've recognized them as exactly that and dealt with them accordingly. This new person just makes me uneasy. She seems like a lot of drama, most of which I won't get into here. There are a...

This is one of the first blogs I read on this site, and I've followed your story with interest. Thanks for sharing; you have a perspective and way of writing that I haven't often seen, and it's nice to know that others manage poly relationships in addition to children and family stuff. Hope all...

Glad to hear things are going well! I like the way you write and look forward to reading more.

I'm so glad I found this thread! It's been lovely reading it. I've had some wonderful moments recently: My husband and partner hugging each other, and saying how much they enjoyed each others' company. Husband telling partner: "You're good to and for (Fiona), and I appreciate that." My...

I'm so sorry to hear this. That sounds rather unreasonable.

We have friends who know; they know mine and my husband's partners, and are fine with it. We have friends who know, but are sort of uncomfortable with the idea, so we don't talk about it much. My sister is pretty accepting and knows everything; our parents know nothing, and it's doubtful that...

My husband and I aren't exactly new to this, but this is the first time in years and years that we're each seeing someone. Things have been going pretty smoothly; I like my husband's girlfriend a lot, and they seem to have a good time together. I have been seeing someone as well; he once dated...

Hi all. I'm very glad to have found this forum; my husband and I have been together for eight years and have been involved with other people, on and off, almost since the start. However, this is the first time it's happened in a few years, and I look forward to gaining more perspective here...

Thank you for your thoughtful responses; I appreciate getting others' perspectives on situations like this. I haven't been feeling loveable or important. This has only been exacerbated by the conversation I had with my boyfriend last night, after not seeing him for two weeks (a story for...

Tell me this gets easier My husband and I are each seeing someone right now, and those people are also seeing others. Right now I'm having a hard time of it. My husband wants to start dating a second person, and it's a lot more difficult for me to accept than I'd thought. I am very much an...