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OKC does not have an option for "couples" seeking. Best bet I would recommend is you each post your own profile, and include a note showing the partner's profile as well, and that you would be looking as a couple. I have seen mods delete profiles that were from couples. And it would be hard to...

Is it possible to overcome betrayal and rebuild trust? I don't want to give up on the best relationship I have ever known, yet I wonder how much it might compromise myself. Me: Monogamish poly, in process of a divorce, in a committed relationship Partner Sunshine: Poly with his wife and me...

I agree, anyone you care about, who speaks well, could officiate. There are many ceremony resources online. My Sunshine and I used to be altar boys. (Well, I was the first girl to do it, so they changed it to "mass servers.") I hope to persuade our former priest to officiate. He left the...

No suggestions, but lots of agreement and sympathy. Your thoughts sound very valid to me. For now, I'm a committed arm to my hinge. But I do seriously consider if it is viable for the long term, as I become more and more "monogamish." I was ever only actively poly when my partner did not meet...

Giving a try to what help helped me most when I was emotionally a wreck detaching my co-dependency from my abusive husband.. Affirmations, written up and posted where I see them most. Here's the list I've been working with for the past few days, and it is seeming to help. I'll check in later to...

Definition of monogamy? I dunno. To me, monogamy is defined as offering my sexuality exclusively to my sole partner. It may or may not include the reciprocation of the being the sole beneficiary of the partner's sexuality. Right now I practice monogamy. My partner practices polyamory. Is...

I am, and always have been a kinesthetic hoar. (Kinesthetic learning is a learning style in which learning takes place by the student actually carrying out a physical activity, rather than listening to a lecture or merely watching a demonstration. It is also referred to as tactile learning...

I was hoping for more concrete strategies. But am mulling over what's been posted thus far. One thing I have requested recently that has seemed to make a huge difference for me today is I asked him, when feasible, to add in a call or text when he gets up in the morning, and before he goes to...

What skills do you employ to stay sane when your partner is with their OSO? I am currently mono with a poly partner (Sunshine) whose only other partner (his wife Becca) is also poly. Sunshine builds his schedule with me around that of his wife. I have been actively poly in the past (hinge in...

No bad blood. She is very, very shy. I am his first partner that they did know socially as a couple first. They started in poly after she had a long-term affair. When Sunshine overcame his feelings of hurt and betrayal, and realized the relationship actually did not detract from their marriage...

Thanks for the outside viewpoints. Much appreciated. I was finally able to start a dialog with Becca, albeit through slow online messages rather than in person. Feeling better, or starting to. So far she says "Pretty much he will go for whatever you want," and she is content as long as he makes...

Forgive an incoherent midnight ramble... I'm feeling like I need to start relationship counseling to sort through my insecurities. Background: I am a monogamish poly in an essentially monogamous relationship. My only intimate partner, Sunshine, is married and has two partners (me and his...

You've got a lot to offer! Letitbe, I'll only touch on a couple of your points. "But part of me feels sad for him that it can't happen. Ah, compersion. Most mono's can't even comprehend that. You're ahead of the game there! "I'm afraid he will find all these women interested in him, and...

On the receiving end, or not, as the case may be, now and then As far as ED issues, it seems to be an issue more for my partner than for me. Heck, I have better orgasms with him when we are fully clothed than I had with many partners. Even when Mr Happy isn't cooperative I am never left...