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I'm sorry to bring this up as it feels like this has turned into a discussion of tenant rights more than anything but this felony was committed over a decade ago and this friend was on a walk to raise awareness for mental health. He's obviously a different person so why does it matter what he...

I would disagree and say that waiting until the end of the semester is a good idea considering how close that must be for you if you're school is like mine. Let her get through her exams without the added relationship stress. But also try not to be transparent that something bad is coming her...

I would love to sit back and listen! Are there some questions I can ask specifically about polyamory that aren't too prying for a first time meeting?

Thank you for your suggestions, everyone. I will definitely let them know I am feeling new and nervous. I guess I'm feeling nervous about what to say once introductions happen. Most of my life right now is school and work which limits conversation topics though I'm probably overthinking it.

I'm hearing two things here. The first is that information that feel is need to know was withheld from you and you feel betrayed and violated because he didn't consider that this is something you needed. Have you come across a similar situation to this with Henry before? Is there a reason that...

Hi! This is less a question about a specific relationship and more a question about...behaviour? Advice? Nervous jitters? I live in a larger city and they have almost weekly poly get together a and I would like to go because school and crazy work periods are over for a few months and we moved...

It sounds like this is mostly resolved, but I wanted to add that you shouldn't feel guilty for asking for a reprieve. You're taking prevantitve measures rather than needing to triage your relationship and emotional well being further down the line. My partner and I moved across the country in...

You need to advocate for your needs. It's your responsibility as much as having talks around safe sex and scheduling. It's fair to your partner(s) so that they can try to meet them or at least explain why they can't. If your need is physical intimacy with your husband on your weekend then he...

Sorry, to clarify she's a friend of ours who happens to live out of town. We've only just started to become friends with her, however I have been involved on an off again (when time and location works out) with her husband since we were in college and consider him a very good friend so she isn't...

I totally agree that 90% of this is my partner's responsibility. As far as having the house ready that was up to him, not her. But she had been told about the marks and my partner doesn't bruise easily at all. They're both saying they were unaware that they were leaving marks at all but given...

My partner recently had a date at our house. Normally we don't bring dates home as we have a very small apartment with zero noise separation and if one of us is out on a date the chances are that the other one needs to be home for work or studying, but because of the circumstances and his date...

A little bit of context. I'm currently in a monosexual relationship with R, who is comfortable with me being poly. About two months ago R went off into the great north to tree plant. We get to speak on the phone once every five days and occasionally in between we get to send the odd text...

It's always good to hear we're having an impact :) On the one hand, if someone is unsure enough that they ask then that's probably better than them just going for it. But if both parties are interested then perhaps that's when physical communication is as effective as verbal communication.

I might've missed this somewhere but has Maca mentioned why it's so important that you befriend his So's with the kids? My parents were so cautious about introducing us to anyone they were seeing and we were usually the last to meet them after friends, coworkers etc.

Looking Back It was very interesting reading the last posts, it's been over two years since they were written. Shortly after the last post, T and I ended our relationship. I think he very much wanted to be poly but was more interested in swinging and we were starting to resent each other a...

I may have been a little sleep deprived when I wrote this :) What I'm asking is: Is verbal communication the only way to clearly move a situation forward? Or are there other ways that give clear signals to the other party that don't involve verbal involvement? Thoughts?

My heart goes out to you and Maca. It's a really frustrating situation. May I ask whether it's the emotional intimacy or sexual intimacy that's most important to Maca? Is there a way to balance personal interaction, say maybe once every week or every other week with something like writing or...

I like that one, thanks!

Something that hasn't been brought up yet is the woman's actions. A lot of these posts seem like we're assuming that the woman is just sitting these and doing nothing. In that case, yes, it is all up to the man. But we all agree there are more ways to signal interest than just going: "Let's...

I've always thought the definition of polyamorous and monoamorous to be many loves and one loves. This might be stupid or obvious but could it be loves one or loves many instead then? Again, feel free to tell me it's a stupid idea.